Hi Dottie - Sorry for your pain. I lost my dad a little over 3 months ago and I miss him so much. I have also been asking for a sign... I may have had a couple but nothing certain. I read in your first post that you've thought about using a recorder but it scares you because of unwanted spirits possibly coming through. Have you read Sandra Champlain's book We Don't Die? She is a middle aged woman, ordinary woman that was interested in what happens after we die. Then her dad died. She started investigating more and even recorder some of her loved ones whom have passed. It may help you a bit if you read it... although I for sure know what you're going through and there's not much that eases the pain or sadness of losing a parent, especially if you were very close.