Posted by Craig That all sounds very awful. I'm sorry you are being abused. But I have to ask you something. Two things - in fact. WHY are you going to their houses? And WHAT do you fear will happen if you DON'T do what they say?! Do you believe what COULD happen [if you refuse] is WORSE than what IS happening?! Victims of abuse [bullying, etc.] often believe that there IS no other choice. That they MUST endure [put up with] the abuse and DO whatever their abusers tell them to do. But that's not always true. A victim needs to know that an abusers power comes from the victim accepting the abuse in the first place. Of course - a victim isn't to BLAME for what's happening to them - but they ARE responsible for taking a stand and DOING whatever CAN be done to STOP the abuse. [do you understand?] One of the biggest mistakes a victim of abuse can make to to honour the desire of the abuser to keep things QUIET. In other words - to NOT tell anyone about what's going on. Battered girlfriends and wives OFTEN make that mistake. They honour the person who is abusing them. Sure - sometimes they do it because they themselves are embarrassed to admit that they are victims OR that they 'choose' an abusive boyfriend/husband - but that's no excuse to keep quiet. An abuser MUST be exposed for who they are. Yes - I know - easier said than done. But the only time anything ever gets better for a victim is when they DO find the courage to speak up. This is exactly what would like to encourage YOU to do. You posted your message - and that's great. But you must keep telling people - especially people you know. Say something to them like, "I am being abused and I don't know what to do. Can you help me?" And if the person you say that to doesn't seem all that interested in helping - that OK. That's their right. But don't let that stop you. Talk to someone else. And KEEP TALKING until someone DOES listen. You do NOT deserve to be abused. No one has ANY RIGHT to make your life miserable. Start with that TRUTH and go from there. Muster up the courage to change your situation and regain a sense of power over YOUR life. GREAT BIG HUG
on April 2, 2006, 3:35 am, in reply to "im being bullied "
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Dear Samantha!! 
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