Posted by Craig
on October 2, 2008, 2:32 pm, in reply to "Not exactly bullying..."
24.64.223.204
Hi EV!! 
I'm sorry to hear that you're having such a difficult time. It's not a nice feeling to feel as though you don't fit in. And no one wants to be invisible. It would be nice for you to have someone you could at least count on for a smile and a friendly 'hello' whenever you're at school. And even nicer for you to have someone to talk to. Whenever I'm somewhere new and strange I'm often anxious. And when I'm anxious I tend to hide away into the shadows as best I can. But the trouble with doing that is that no one will come near me. And I guess that makes sense - because - well - I'm not acting very approachable. Maybe that's what you're doing too. The only thing that helps me is to ACT AS IF I belong. So maybe that's something you could do. YOU be the one to smile first. YOU be the one to say 'hello'. And if no one responds - don't worry about. Just keep smiling and saying hello. Sometimes people don't respond. But what you want to do is start to plant 'seeds'. And with some people - those 'seeds' will take root and they will come to see you as someone THEY might like to get to know. It's also important for you to see yourself not as someone different - but as someone unique. Sure - you may not be like them - but they're not like you - either. And that means that you have just as much to offer them as they have to offer you. Pretending to be like them won't work - as you know. [Because you have already tried that] Besides - pretending to be someone you're not is a betrayal of yourself. So just be yourself. Be the person that you would like some of them to be. Give to them what you would like them to give to you. It will take time for some people to warm up to the new, more approachable you - but I'm sure they will. Besides - you're definitely someone I'D say hi too!!
I hope that helps.
GREAT BIG HUG
Craig!!
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