Posted by Craig I am so sorry to hear all that. Of course - those girls had absolutely NO RIGHT to do that to you. Not only was it cruel - but it could have been dangerous. They didn't know how your body might have reacted to the Ex-lax. [I mean - other than causing you to have diarrhea] What a rotten thing to do. Again - I am so sorry to hear that you were forced to go through all of that. A very humiliting experience - for sure. As for the photo's of you - some people laughed when they saw them - as you know - but not all of them laughed for the same reason. For some people - their laughter was a nervous reaction. People often laugh out of fear. They worry that the same thing could happen to THEM if THEY don't 'ACT AS IF' what happened to someone else - was funny. So try not to take the laughs TOO personally. Also - those photo's of you are not revealing who YOU are as a person. They are revealing [to everyone] just how horrible those OTHER girls are. I know that's not an easy thing to accept - but if you see a photo [on the news - or wherever] of a victim of rape - all bruised and beaten - is that photo humiliating the victim OR the abuser? If you're not sure - it's humiliting the abuser. [even if the abuser isn't smart enough or sensitive enough to realize it] The same is true with those photo's of you. It's not really YOU on display - but the charactor of those girls who DID that TO you. [I hope this makes sense] Be sure to tell Jessica [if you haven't already] just how much you appreciate her friendship. It's important to keep people like her in our lives. As for what to do now - well - I'm not really sure. I can understand the fear of causing MORE problems by telling people what happened - but isn't what all abuser's threaten their victims with? Still.. what matters is YOU. If YOU feel it's best to leave things alone [at least for a little while] then that's what you should do. But IF you think it's important to expose those girls and let everyone know just what THEY DID - then THAT'S what you should do. But before you do that - make sure you have an 'army' of support behind you. [like your family, Jessica and other friends] It might also be good to find out just what the school policy IS when it comes to abusive students. I hope that you never have to go through that again. You never deserved to go through it the first time. Please take care of yourself. GREAT BIG HUG
on December 31, 2004, 3:28 am, in reply to "humiliated"
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Hi hannah!! 
Craig!!
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