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Posted by lisa on 1/23/2006, 6:36 am
Hi all. My name is Lisa and I know that I am in a codependent relationship. Without going into all the gritty details, the most disturbing issue with my husband is that he will not work. He has every excuse in the book not to. He is in his 30's now and received a felony conviction when he he was 20 and uses this as his main reason as to why he will never be able to have a good job. He does not have many real skills to utilize but he has to start somewhere right? When ever I bring this issue up he becomes angry or depressed and sleeps for a couple of days. He refuses to go to counseling or take meds for depression. We rely on my sole income and for two people it isn't enough. I also want to go back to school and finish my undergrad degree, but this seems impossible due to his unemployment. He has never held a job since we have been together. I know I am enabling him, but he retreats emotionally when I ask him to find a job. He tells me to find one for him! I really love my husband. I think he has social phobia or just feels depressed. Either way he won't help himself and I am scared. Please help any advice? Lisa
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