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Posted by Barb
on 2/15/2006, 10:41 am
My husband was addicted to pain killers for 16 years of our marriage. He detoxed 3 years ago and started taking care of himself. I lost my life. No one to take care of! Anyhoo, tried taking care of another recovering addict and I finally hit bottom and realized how co-dependent I was. Read both books by Melody Beatty and combined with years of counseling and adult child issues was doing great.
Last October, we went back to attending our church where there is many recovering people. Before long, I was 'involved' again and the first time I said "no" to this person, she got ticked.
An arguement insued and my husband took her side which really shot me over the edge.
I realized that my behavior was wrong and that my expectations were way out there. What I'm struggling with is that I don't want to go back to this church because #1: this girl still attends there. #2: No one there understands co-dependency, only addictions #3 I don't know anyone there I want a relationship with (actually, I'm scared to death of any relationships right now.)
#4: the pastor knows I'm having problems but has done nothing to help, not even a phone call.
I want to start over some place else. I want to take my time and get to know myself again before I try to know others. I'm really scared and confused as to why I feel this way and am I just avoiding people because I feel like I will lose control?
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