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Posted by Jessica on 3/9/2006, 12:57 am
I came across this site and thought I would leave a post just to see if anybody responds. I honestly don't know what to do, so I thought advice from strangers who have an outside perspective would be nice.
I am in a relationship with a man, and up until about a week and a half ago, the relationship was going quite well, in fact, I didn't know I could be so happy. However a week and a half ago everything changed. My boyfriend had a child with his ex. He and his ex are not together, however he is a real man and is taking responsibility for the child. From the day I met him, I knew about this, and for awhile I told him we should just date, because I was afraid that him having his first child would rip us apart. He reassured me over and over again that things would be ok, that he did not want to be with his ex ever again, and that he was a good guy, and would not hurt me. He treated me like gold and made me so happy, and I fell in love with him. The day before he went away for his child to be born he cried and told me he loved me, and I belived him. His child has now been born for a week, and I feel as if everything has changed. Not changed in the way that he wants to be with his ex, but between us. It's only the first week, and he's been so distant. He ingored me for an entire day, and as of yesterday, wouldnt even talk to me on the phone. He tells me he feels that we need to 'breath" because of the way I responded to him ignorging me for a day and 1/2. He says he feels the relationship is growing unhealthy and he needs time for his daughter yet he does not want to leave me. He told me this all in a text message. I dont understand. I don't know what to do. Am I just suppose to wait for him to go through all this and then talk to me? I feel as though this is what I was afraid was going to happen, and even though he guranteed me it wouldn't, it did. Im so hurt and lost and confused. Just a week and 1/2 ago I had everything I wanted in a man. Now I feel like there is not even a relationship at all and I am dealing with a little boy. I feel so alone and like im dying inside. I don't understand how somebody can love someone else and treat them this way. What should I do? Wait for the call...I don't know anymore. He won't speak to me at all, and I have no idea what we need to breath means. He said in his beyond childish way of communicating with me in a text message "I do not want to leave you, I just feel I need some time for my daughter, and this does not mean I am going back to my ex or that I do not love you, because I do, I just feel this relationship is growing unhealthy and we need to breath, I love you remember that, I did not call you for a day to see what would happen and you convinced me we need to breath" I have not had a phone call or text message since yesterday when I recived that exact message after trying to call him for an entire 24 hr period. I apoligize for the length of this explanation, but I did not know how to phrase it in a shorter way.
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