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Re: I think I may be co-dependent... Please advise

Posted by Blu on 5/3/2006, 3:57 am, in reply to "I think I may be co-dependent... Please advise"

Hey S, Lighen up. Love takes years, not days or weeks. It nice to be loved, adored, put on a pedestal but your opinion of yourself cannot be formed by that alone -- cause then you set yourself up to stop growing as a human being. This person cannot take over your every waking thought - you need to have a life of your own... some balance & perspective. Part of the answer is "live now, in this moment" - dont keep building visions, fantasies and dreams and being dissapointed/depressed when they fall short. Have some faith in other people and keep your paranoia under control - its YOUR fear. Know what you want but keep healthy boundaries in place. When you get to a place/space/time with this person where you are doing things you dont really want to (cause you are afraid to lose him) then you are selling yourself short, becoming a true codependant. Go chase some butterflies girl!!! Blu

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