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Posted by Marty This past week my girlfriend broke it off with me after three and half years of living together on and off when she wasn't traveling. Three weeks ago she laid on me that she had slept with 7 different men through different periods in our relationship. I could deal with the abuse since I thought she loved me and stayed fatihful like I was. Then i just felt the realtionship was a real farse. I decided we could work through it since she came clean with me on the cheating. Then over the last three weeks we tried to get along but of course i had some resentment. She is in LA at the moment and I am in Toronto so we couldn't really deal with it in person. Two days ago after us breaking it off on Saturday she got married. Now I am just sitting here stunned and can't beleive what just happened with my head in my hands. I treated her like gold even when she treated me like coal. Took her away from dancing and paid for everything up till about a year ago since I though she was taking advantage of me and my money. I feel like I was abused pretty bad by this girl and at the same time have never loved someone or gave as much of myself in a relationship.
on 6/3/2006, 3:54 pm
HI everyone. I have to admit it has been so beneficial to read about other people with codependency issues. I am one of them and this has helped make me realize it.
SHe was bipolar and every two weeks would out of the blue freak out on me for absolutely nothing. Sometimes it was even something nice I was doing.
I always knew something like this could happen since she was so flighty and bipolar but everytime I wanted to leave I always took her back and kept faith that maybe someday she would realize the good deeds and love I would pour into her. We made a pact to work out our issues early on of course many of the issues were hers all the time. I guess I was waiting for her to love me back the way I should have been. She never gave back in to the relationship and almost had a single attitude. I just am at odds since I am a great guy (I have always known this), smart, classy, charming, great successful job, and easy on the eyes. I also realize that at the same time I could have almost any woman I wanted in today society and I seem to pick the worst of the litter. I never would have thought my own personal self esteem would gravitate to a point where I would let someone treat me the way she did especially since I loved her so much. It definitely hurts when all you want is to be treated the way you are treating them. I just don't get it. I am also worried I would continue with a CODE pattern and never really find a true love relationship. I just feel embarrassed and scared why I would stay involved when not getting anything back but giving your all. 
I also feel like am I that hard to love.
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