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Posted by JJJ on 6/19/2006, 3:46 am, in reply to "What should I do?" Dad drinks and the son is a drunk. Dad carts his boy around and enables him. Is dad enabling his son because he drinks himself? Great excuse to behave badly. The son is heading one way downhill and will drag all who are not aware along with him. Mom has booted him. Dad is certainly not doing him any favours. Are you out of line? I dont think so. Its easy to start taking sides, though. You have to draw your up your own boundaries and decide when its okay to be treated badly and when not. Make your own decisions. Dont be bullied into compliance by their bad behaviour. Its never ok to be disrespected or treated badly. Should you call his probation officer? Hell yes. But be sure you do this for the right reasons, not just to get back at him. In the end Dad's decisions are his own - dont blame them on his son. This cant just be a threat. There is wrong and there is right. If he uses his sickness to manipulate and abuse, well, its up to the people in his life that care for him to help him - any way they can. This is just my opinion. Think this through. Look out for loops repeating themselves. These are the things you have to stop. The son will never take responsibility for himself as long as there is someone to enable him. JJJ
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