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Posted by Karen on 6/26/2006, 5:45 am I have been letting the hurt of separation from my sister take hold. My sister and brother-in-law are alcoholics. All I need is to remind myself that I know what it feels like to repeat the pattern of codependency. I have been in the pattern again and am now pulling back out again. I take responsibility for saying what I felt that I needed to say to my sister. I did write in a letter that I felt we had little in common any more. I told her I loved her and cared about her and was concerned for her. We don't talk, we don't visit, we don't share. We are separated by miles, by the disease, by denial, by anger, hurt, etc. I'm in a support caregiver role for our 88 year old mother - not as much as last year - Thank God for that, too, (enjoyed that wonderful time together)just doing errands and grocery shopping and visiting at least once a week. I am wanting to move my feelings out of hurt and anger again to acceptance of "that's what addictions are all about" - a cycle of repetitive behaviors that not only hurt the addicted person, but also many others. My choice today is to face reality and let go. I am glad I have the opportunity to enjoy my mother's company and love. I am glad I have a loving son and niece and friends. I am so glad to have found your site. Many thanks. Karen
I've been a codependent for many years. Married to two alcoholics. Now I'm single again and a happy widow (most of the time) I am realizing this morning that the pain that I have been feeling again is due to my not remembering what it is to "stay the course" and face facts.
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