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Posted by babu on 7/24/2006, 11:13 am, in reply to "Re: Is running away the only solution?" I had thought about counselling...but there is one big problem - we are in two different countries on the opposite sides of the earth right now (This happened 2 months back)! I will have to spend atleast one year before I return. I had thought about talking to friends too. But the strange fact is, we have absolutely no common friends...who are close enough to both of us. Yes, I totally agree with your line 'They have to want to get better themselves'. And thats what amazes me - WHY wouldnt anyone want to learn...and GROW?? My girlfriend has 'supposedly' understood the problems many times before..only to get back to doing the same things again. So everytime she does something again, I dont know whether to keep up hope and forgive it as a 'temporary setback'....or be totally shattered that she hasnt understood the problem even now. Problem is - I feel very alone doing all this. Nobody else other than me seems to support this. And if somebody aske me 'Why???' I dont have anything other than 'Because its the right thing to do. I have committed to her. I have spoken to her parents as well' to tell them. I feel ashamed for being 'unsure' about our relationship even NOW, she never has...and she keeps pointing this out again and again...which makes me feel even more guilty. She has always loved me without absolutely ANY questions - I dont know whether thats because they were never needed, or whether it was 'blind' unideal, 'dependent' love...or whether thats how love is supposed to be and I am the one at fault! I can find the strength to break up - but I need a WAY which will HELP...BOTH. Do you have any suggestions?
Thank you very much for your advice Jimmysmom.
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