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Posted by babu on 7/25/2006, 12:12 am, in reply to "Re: Is running away the only solution?" I broke up with her today. I had actually called her to have a long talk..about what i feel and if there was anything we could do etc. She again got into some 'I too have emotions..you dont care' kind of routine even before i could start off. Couldnt take it anymore. So i gave up. She asked me 'I was trying - genuinely. I dint even DO anything wrong this time!!' And i had nothing to say. Felt like a jerk. Especially because it ended on a bad note. But then sent her a long mail...trying to say that as long as i could not get myself to respect her...i would be only exploiting her true love for me and her inability to leave me..and subjecting her to emotional abuse. Its all mostly gonna be met by 'Whats the use now?? Its all over anyways'. But I am trying to convince myself that i did the best I could...and i hope she works on herself rather than drowing herself in self-pity. For a third person I am one of those usual 'trap her, tell her "i love you", use her...then drop her with "sorry i was wrong, i was never actually in love with you"' kinda guy. Am trying hard to convince myself i am not. I hear you saying 'i am not responsible for her feelongs or actions'. I will try. 'Make her take responsibility...' Cant do that...cause I gave up. And ended up losing true love. But again, thanks for your interest. Hence thought of updating you on what happened. Should i send her the link of this page to make her see what a third person has to say?? Would that help? Or is it better that I shut up all communication now that we have broken up and not try to act 'too caring'?
Thanks again for responding.
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