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Posted by Larissa on 7/26/2006, 1:21 am, in reply to "driving my best friend away"
Hi rc,
I know how you are feeling. I was dating a guy for 2 years and met him when he was going through a low point in his life. I was there for him and he was there for me and he was and hopefully still is my best friend. However, my codependence, insecurity and "crazy" tendencies as he liked to call them have driven him away from me to the point where he has given up. I am devastated to have lost him, but realizing that I have lost control of myself and thus have pushed someone who meant the world to me away that this behavior is only going to make the situation worse.
What i am trying to say is, the insecurity that he will change his mind, that he will not care, etc.. harms us and shakes our state of mind and our peace. We have to tell ourselves all the time that Other people's actions are not at all reflections of our self worth. I always remind myself of this because it truly helps to remind urself that it is about us. We have to be at peace with ourselves and within ourselves.
It is so hard and I am struggling with the same thing right now. I just had a horrible argument with my ex about losing him forever. He said the surefire way to lose him would be to continue acting like this and not take care of myself.
So take care of yourself and stop worrying about other people. If he is a good friend, and he seems like he is, then he will be proud of you for taking care of yourself and i am sure the friendship will thrive.
Hope this helps.
larissa
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