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Posted by Michele on 8/26/2006, 3:46 pm
I had posted a message "what I should do? a while back. Well, I had taken the boyfriend back after he apologized for his actions and we were doing fine. That didn't last! Last Friday his son decided to take it upon himself to tell his probation officer that he lived with his dad and girlfriend(me) and used my address. His mom didn't want him at her house because he was destroying her relationship with her husband. The grandparents on his father's side don't want him there.
I was very upset and told the boyfriend he had no right...he doesn't and will not live at my house and I was going to inform his son. Well, of course father said he'd take care of it that day. I knew that would never happen. The father and I were in the process of flipping a house. I went over to the house the next day and confronted his son who was there drinking of course(on probation). I told him he had no right to use my address with out my permission. His father was in the front of the house and Michael(son) and I were in the back..His son told me"Shut the F**K up and get the h*LL out of here, that I was not welcomed at the fixer upper house. I told his father what he said and he replied "I told you I'd fix it! I said that's it? " You are going to let your son talk to me that way?" His reply again was "I told you I'd fix it. I told him I'd fix it myself and inform the probation officer and I just went home. Late that night, his father didn't come home. I had a bad gut feeling and decided to go to one of the fathers old friends house that's on coke, crack, etc.....and there he was. I was so disgusted. I told him if he wants to hang here than don't bother coming home..He told me they were his friends. I just wanted to throw up. I told him go for it...you call these drug addicts your friend you are sick......Well, two days later, he decides to come home. My daughter called me at work and told me he was in the bed sleeping and asking if I was alright. I couldn't believe it....When I got home, I went to my daughters room (she's 18)and stayed there. The next morning, I had to get ready for work. He was laying in the bedroom awake. I asked him what he was doing at my house? I told him that I was sick of how he was treating me and to leave. He said he had left those so called friends house after I had left. He said he had a bad neck ache and since he paid part of the house payment he wasn't leaving. He didn't want to be a bum and had no money. Well, my son (who'se 21) was just getting ready to leave for work. He heard what I said and went into the bedroom..He told my boyfriend that "my mom asked you to leave and you need to leave or else I'm going to have to kick your a**!" My son than went to work. The boyfriend got up and I left to go to work...but of course I was too upset to go so I just drove around. My daughter called me because she was still at the house and said my boyfriend was just sitting at the table in awe. Well, after about 20 minutes of riding around, I came back and he finally was getting his things packed. When everything was out, he gave me a kiss on the forehead and said "I"m sorry it had to be this way" and away he went. I called the probation officer Tuesday to see if my address was still being used. Of course...they never took care of it. The probation officer asked me if the son lives with his father and I told him his son is not allowed to live at my house, his father was living here at the time, but the son had no right to use my address as his residency and that he has no where to live. His own mom and grandparents don't even want him around. I also told him that I would not enable him like everyone else has been doing. He was very surprised and told me he'd take care of it..... Well, it's been three days, and I cried for a little bit, got angry, and now I'm just tring to figure out what to do with my life now. I no I need to move on and hopefully, I can get thru this ordeal and stay strong...stick to my guns.....and finally get some peace. My kids are very supportive and tell me I deserve so much better. Thank God I have them.......
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