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Posted by confused
on 12/22/2006, 10:38 pm, in reply to "I NEED HELP WITH MY SON"
Hi there, let me start by saying my heart goes out to you. You must be in such agony, losing one son and afraid that you will lose another. I am sorry for your loss. Please know I am a behavioral therapist so I apply behavioral techniques to get behaviors to chsnge. Although my schooling did not involve working with drug and alcohol abuse, I am very aware of the situation and problems, worrying that goes with it. Please know that the best thing I did in my situation was attend ALNON meetings and some kind of therapy.It was an effective tool to learn what these drugs do to people, their families and the individual. It sounds like your son doesn't care about his choices, his life and his future. He is also disregarding your concerns. Would he consider therapy? It must have been very difficult for him to lose his brother. Was this a result of drugs as well? Have you tried going to some kind of therapy? Best of muck to you. I am facing a situation with a future father in law that is an alcholic and I'm debating my future in my current relationship. I have a bad feeling that this man will be living with me and my future husband, that is not okay with me. This man is only 48, doesn;t work and hasn't worked since he was in his mid 30's), claims he's disabled and can't work, he lives in shelters and is a vetern. He takes advantage of the system. When they try to rehabilitate him and teach him a new job skill, he uses an excuse to get out of it. My future husband id very defensive when it comes to this man and uses the dad's excuses to justify the actions. Anyhow, it;s a very disfunctional realtionship and I'm trying to figure out what my future will be. I do not want this man around, he is a horrible role model and I think he's white trash. It makes me mad, I am an amputee and I work, for this man to pull the disability thing makes me so mad! I have been trying to get my future husband to go to an ALNON meeting, he refuses. I have learned so much there. I hear stories like yours all the time. It is also insightful b/c you hear from former addicts and they talk about what helped them. I hope this helped, if you have any advise in my situation, I would love to hear it. I just need to vent I guess. Please know that I hope you and your son work it out.
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