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Posted by Scarlettleigh on 12/29/2006, 10:49 am, in reply to "go for the long ride or accept the painful fact?" Should you decided to move forward with this everything you do, see and think will change. You will also begin to feel a great freedom and a sense of control over your life that you have never felt before. You must begin to do this for yourself....for this is what co-dependency is about getting your life back. It will feel as if you are being selfish but you are not. As far as your relationship as you work on yourself your partner will see a change in you now whether she will like the change ...who can tell....for she will be in a relationship with a person very different than who she started with. She will have to decide if she likes this or not. But you must work on you! Don't know if this helps or not...my journey started shortly after my husband left me for the second time. This has been about 8 years ago and there are times that I slip back into my unhealthy ways. It has been a completely new life for me. Wish you the best!
Ande.
What you have discovered is very over whelming. When I saw what my problem was it turned my world upside down. It shook my belief foundation to the very core. I was a long time Christian and what i thougth i saw was attacking my belief in all the principals i stood for. The way i lived my life was selfless a daily giving up all of my self. When i realized that I could say no to things and set boundries i was totally shocked.
By the way almost everything I have learn about this has been through book i have read and a few counseling sessions.
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