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Posted by Misspl on 2/5/2007, 10:48 am, in reply to "I'm a little nervous..."
The first thing I would suggest that you do is start learning how to love yourself. I learned that everything that you need you already have within yourself. This is how I learned how to start loving myself; You have to first start owning up to your own stuff and leave everyone else stuff alone for them to own up to; Example: If your husband cheated on you (that would be his stuff); how you responded to him cheating on you (that would be your stuff); now you need to make a choice as to what you need to do about how you are feeling about how your husband stuff is effecting you. Understand that not making a choice is actually choosing to accept what has just happened. If what happen to you as a result of your husband's action really is causing you to feel a certain way that is not healthy for you, you need to search within yourself to see where that feeling is really coming from and acknowledge the information you find and then say to yourself that you survived it and therefore you can make a different choice today. Most times we want to look at the person who just created the situation, but the truth is somewhere in our past something happened that we are still living out in our sub-conscious mind that's why you need to acknowledge the feeling and where it came from so that you can bring it to your conscious mind and understand that you are no longer a victim of that situation. I hope this information helps you to start your journey to loving yourself.
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