Instead of giving myself reasons why I can't, I give myself reasons why I can. - Unknown
Posted by Fran on 11/6/2009, 11:08 am, in reply to "Sabatours..."
At the end of the day, this journey is about you, your health, how you feel about yourself, and your own comfort level.
Being a caretaker by nature hearing that your loss is a threat to someone else's self esteem would certainly make you want to help them, but sadly, that is one of the many things in this life that is completely beyond your control. Her feelings don't matter one iota more than yours do...and, she is responsible for her feelings and for dealing with them, never you. Once you take on responsibility for another's good feelings, then you also become the one they blame when things don't go well...
So, no matter how you look at it, you lose, and I don't mean weight.
Sorry that got so long. I can't believe she had the nerve to put all that on you!
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