The easiest way to avoid regrets is to ask yourself this question, "If not now, when?" It's a powerful way to put life and our decisions about how we spend our time into perspective"
Just my two cents but I think Gee is onto something
with the meal prep idea and helping them to find the best choices at their favorite restaurants/fast food eateries. Are you close enough to them that you/Ray could pre-cook two or three meals a week and take over there? That could work for you as well. If you are all in this as a family it is easier than going it alone because you don't want to let the family members down.