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Posted by Cindy on 12/17/2017, 2:32 am
F-good-blue dot day |
YAY Cindy! Fewd for me
Posted by Krista on 12/17/2017, 8:04 am, in reply to "Fewd"
F - family party and just brought my own stuff and stayed on track. Victory #1 for the holiday season! |
E - none
W - none
D - good
So proud of you I am about to pop!
Posted by Delta on 12/17/2017, 6:33 pm, in reply to "YAY Cindy! Fewd for me"
You truly have got this, Krista. |
Thank you! I am BLOWN AWAY
Posted by Krista on 12/18/2017, 8:16 am, in reply to "So proud of you I am about to pop!"
We had Peter and Kim over for a turkey dinner and I just had my turkey ground up with mayo and a couple of coffee with vanilla flavoured creamer. |
AND I LIVED! I honestly didn't feel "cheated" that I couldn't have all the other stuff they were having! It's a miracle!
Posted by Cindy on 12/17/2017, 10:06 am, in reply to "YAY Cindy! Fewd for me"
That is HUGE bringing your own food to the party and being able to stay on track! THAT is the key to getting this weight off and keeping it off! I am so proud of you! I used to wonder what people would think if I didnít eat anything (at birthday parties, office treat days, even at funerals when they would serve a meal afterwards), but believe me I have found no one really cares! I would get a cup of coffee and be drinking it. Like you, I now take food I can eat to get togethers involving a meal and it works out just fine! |
You may not realize it, but being able to do this is BIG!
So proud of you!
First challenge of about 4 down
Posted by Krista on 12/17/2017, 10:17 am, in reply to "Krista...."
Thanks Cindy! I'm very proud and I do know how huge it is. My next challenge is a buffet on Thursday with Dad and Paul. We go every year and it's a big feast. One year, I went but just had desserts but that's not even an option for me this year. I can certainly choose meat (turkey, roast, salmon) and salad but the problem for me here is that I can't eat meat that isn't ground up and I don't feel comfortable asking the kitchen to grind up my meat. If I do eat meat, I am almost ALWAYS sick to my stomach which is no fun at all |
Because it is Dad and Paul, they don't understand how it's not something I want to do - eat off track. I'd feel silly sitting there just drinking a coffee while they all eat. I just hate feeling like I am "letting them down" in some way. I don't know if I am explaining it right. It's a tradition with our family - as is the huge feast on Christmas Day which will be another challenge this week.
Breathe in, breathe out - it will all work out. If they can realize it's about FAMILY and not FOOD, all will be well. But I admit, it's stressing me.
Posted by Delta on 12/17/2017, 6:58 pm, in reply to "First challenge of about 4 down"
if the buffet place has an online nutritional list. Even if not sometimes you can just Google low carb at (whatever restaurant) and it will bring up things people have put into My Fitness Pal or Spark people and other sites like that. If not try to remember what they serve and find the approximate carb count of some veggies. Even if you are trying to stay lower on a daily basis, most people won't come out of ketosis if they stay within 50-100 grams on a very occasional basis. |
If you can find any nutritional info you can plan to eat just that. Put a list on your phone or take a small note in your pocket and refer to it before you go in.
Put lots of salad and veggies on your plate to make it look like you are eating a lot. If your plate is piled then perhaps it will look
"normal" to your dad and brother and they won't bother you. Eat as much as you want and we all know that you won't overindulge on vegetables so don't worry.
Salmon, if cooked well can be mashed with your fork and then chopped up with the edge of your fork or a knife, hopefully enough that you can nibble on it and not get sick. Or perhaps they might have another softer baked fish if you can eat that. Does the salad bar have boiled eggs and do you eat them? If not be honest if anyone says anything and tell them that meat makes you physically sick if not ground and the restaurant has nothing for you to eat. It used to embarrass me not being to be able to eat breads when everyone else was diving in and asking that croutons be left off my salad but I realized finally that being honest was easier in the long run and actually didn't make me seem as dramatic as trying to come up with excuses or becoming sick.
If everyone sits around after dinner with dessert and coffee, try to find cheesecake. Nibble at it in a few small bites to equal two normal bites and drink lots of coffee (take some twin if the buffet place doesn't have it). Maybe talk to Ray before you get there to swipe bites from your dessert or ask for a taste, getting rid of a good bit of it in a way that won't cause concern from others. If you have chosen carefully two bites of cheesecake without the crust should keep you below 50 grams of carbs and that should keep you in ketosis now that you have been on plan for a while if you go right back on plan the next day. Making it look like you take several bites will probably fool your dad and Paul into thinking you are eating as will eating lots of on plan veggies.
It's funny how those that love us want what is best for us but they just don't want us to change even when that is what is best for us. And it's funny how we go against what we know is right to appease those we love. You can manage this Krista, just come up with a plan and stick to it. Make it look as normal as possible and try not to talk about it. Skinny people eat buffets and stay skinny. We can be different for one night and act like a skinny person. We don't have to eat everything because it is there or because we paid for it.
Thanks for all these wonderful suggestions!
Posted by Krista on 12/18/2017, 8:19 am, in reply to "Wondering"
They don't have a menu - this is a VERY SWANKY once a year buffet they have. But I know they will have turkey and fish and roast beef for sure and all of those have zero carbs so I'll have to focus on really chewing. Great idea re the salad. If they have cheese I'm all set but I don't think they did in the past. They don't "waste time" on small things. Definitely no eggs. |
No dessert for me and that's ok - people know that in my family. I haven't had any cheesecake since March 22 but you had me drooling LOL The only dessert I've really had is pie but I know that would be loaded with carbs so skipping dessert is ok.
Great idea on the sweetener - will tuck into my pocket. Thanks for the suggestions Delta - this will help me as I navigate through.
Family is more of a say nothing, hold a grudge bunch
Posted by Krista on 12/18/2017, 8:50 am, in reply to "Thanks for all these wonderful suggestions!"
If they are pissed off with me, they rarely say anything - they seethe quietly. Maybe I'm making more out of it than I should. But I love the idea of piling plate up like it LOOKS like I'm eating more. SMART LADY!|
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