Posted by Paula on 5/5/2018, 9:14 am, in reply to "Saturday Grats! Do share? (nt)"
Went WAAYYY off my WW plan yesterday...the culmination of a long week and having access to candy at work. Good thing is that I don't want to feel that way and getting back on track today isn't going to be hard. One good thing about WW for me is that I know exactly what I have to do today to bet back on track. Track those damn points! |
Bill came and blew all the leaves and pollen off my sidewalks and driveway. Because of the way my elbow is damaged, I can't use a blower. I can cut the grass if I keep the mower close to my body but can blow. Sweeping hurts some but I let this get way beyond my ability to sweep.
I took my boss out this week. Jenee, the other therapist, and me have a monthly 'check in' with her and it so happened to be this past Thursday. Jenee has filed racial discrimination charges against her and, after 8 weeks of essentially nothing be accomplished, hired a lawyer to speak for her. None of that can be discussed or even hinted at in these meetings for legal purposes (although just for sh#@ts and giggles we both wore black and white outfits to the meeting). We think for her own protection, our boss brought her boss. I think she did that to intimidate us but it had quite the opposite effect. I like her boss. She is fun, articulate and doesn't take prisoners but I find her to be very approachable and you just get the sense that she cares...whether it's just strategic or whatever. I am pretty sure that my boss didn't know that I had previous good encounters with her boss. So the meeting goes on for about 45 minutes and then I took over. There were many things I wanted to say to my boss about how rude and dismissive she is; how her plan to teach her staff how to create better resumes in the event they want to leave, is just mean-spirited and disrespectful, how dismissive she is of her staff, how when staff approach her with needs, she tells them that their concern is on the back burner, how when people say they're unhappy, she just tells them they should leave, how she calls her staff out to criticize them in front of the whole team. She is AWFUL. Like I said, I wanted to bring them up but wasn't sure I would bother with it. BUT, when I saw that she brought Kit with her, I knew I had the perfect opportunity to let it all rip and to know that her boss heard it. Bringing Kit backfired for her big time. I was fierce but composed. I had amazing direct eye contact throughout. Kit kept trying to talk over me, but I made sure I got in every freakin' word I wanted to say. My boss just sat there. Kit defended her in some instances but I pushed for the fact that even though some of the things that she says have merit (i.e. some of our concerns have to wait for other things to be taken care of) you don't tell your staff over and over and over again that what their concerned about is on the back burner in a dismissive way. Doubt anything will change but it felt good. Kit said a few times that she is sorry to see me leave and actually teared up once when saying it. After the meeting, Jenee got an email from her outlining how some of the concerns we've been asking to have addressed for almost two years are going to be addressed. My luck is that all the things that led to me leaving are now going to truly 'come to the front burner.' Later the doc who is the head of the Ryan White Clinic saw me and asked in a playful way if I was sure I wanted to leave them. I looked at him and told him 'no' but that certain things made it impossible for me to stay. He looked shocked but I told him I had to go see a patient. One of the nurse managers came to me later and told me he had taken her aside to find out what was going on and was furious. Again, that felt good but one of my coworkers who left a few months ago said that it's time for them to stop being 'shocked' when people leave and to do something.
Grateful for those who read all of the above!