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Update on Ken...
Posted by Cindy on 9/13/2018, 7:02 pm
Ken went to the cardiologist today who put him in a blood pressure monitor that he gets to wear for 24 hours to get a true look at what his blood pressure is doing. He is also getting an echocardiogram done next week and a chemically induced stress test. Dr wants to check his heart murmur he has had forever and see if it has changed and then wants to see how his heart is doing. |
He also told Ken he needs to give up salt, smoking and sugary foods. Ken said he is ready to start feeling better so we will see how this goes! His primary care dr put him on Metformin a month and a half ago because his A1c had gone up quite a bit (7.2) but talked like Ken was borderline diabetic. The cardiologist said any one with elevated sugar levels like that is diabetic no matter what any one wants to call it. The cardiologist doesnít mess around or mince words. He told Ken that if he wants a better quality of life and to live he needs to get his blood pressure under control. He said that for every cigarette he smokes it raises his BP for 30-45 minutes and if he smokes a pack a day, he is just asking for trouble.
Please pray that Ken can get his smoking stopped. He is always so stressed about things. I donít dare mention any bill that is coming due because then he sits and worries about that! He has been feeling so crappy lately, but I am hoping that his health will get better! I will keep you posted!
I am sorry that Ken has been
Posted by Delta on 9/14/2018, 4:24 pm, in reply to "Update on Ken..."
feeling so badly and now seems to have so much going on. I am glad that the cardiologist was so abrupt with him. That seems to be what it takes with most men. I hope that with your help he will be able to improve his health. |
Our husbands seem to follow a similar path. My husband had bladder cancer, which the doctor told him was the kind that smokers get. He had diabetes, that his endocrinologist told him was probably exacerbated by the smoking if not caused by it. He had heart problems which almost always go hand in hand with diabetes, especially in men. It's a lot for wives to worry about.
Could you get Ken to walk with you? That is usually a good remedy for stress, blood pressure, and diabetes. Are you making WW compliant meals or do you feed him a different meal? Ww would be good for him but the new one is a bit lenient for any of his three major concerns right now, but probably an easier transition at this time than anything else.
I found that an old-fashioned exchange meal plan helped my husband most. One similar to the old WW exchange, not the diabetic exchange, it had way too much starch choices for him to keep his sugar in check. He could still get one treat a week and eat near normal. He stayed prediabetic and under for over 20 years doing that and moving a lot until he got pancreatitis from a medication that made his pancreas stop working. His doctor said that it would never repair itself but he has been careful what he eats and seldom has to take shots anymore and very little insulin when he does.
Another idea that my husband tried he got from a stop smoking campaign 20 years ago. He was a 2+ packs a day smoker when the doctor told him he would have to quit.
In July he set a date in the future as the pamphlet he read said to do. His date was his birthday in November. As advised in the pamphlet he told everyone that he was quitting on his birthday. He started planning for it by waiting as long as he could between smokes and talking positively about quitting and trying to catch himself in any negative talk or thinking and turn it around to positive. Within weeks he was down to one pack a day and then to half a pack a day.
His doctor suggested an anti-depressant pill that had helped people quit starting two months before his planned quit date, saying that it sometimes took a couple weeks or longer to take effect. He took it less than a week and refused to take more. He said it made him feel just awful so it was not worth it. A week later he was only occasionally having one or two a day. About a week later he just quit. He said the cigarettes tasted horrible even that long after stopping the pills.
That was the end of it. Before the end of September, he had his last one and hasn't gone back. He tried to smoke some time after that and found it was horrible then too. He had put them down for over a year at a time several times before but always started back and always from getting one from someone else to try it. I honestly believe that the difference at that time was that he changed his mind by all the positive talk instead of the negative aspect of dreading it and thinking how much he missed them after he quit. After that time he hated the smell of smoke on people instead of it making him crave them.
These are just to give you some ideas that there are things that can and do work for all of Ken's concerns and it is not always a life of deprivation but can actually feel normal. Praying for the two of you as you travel this new road together.
Posted by Beverly on 9/14/2018, 11:24 am, in reply to "Update on Ken..."
So glad that Ken has a doctor that's checking everything. |
To quit smoking is very very hard addiction for breaking. There are so many things that can help. Often a combination: gum or patches, Rx med. help groups and hot lines. I wish him all the best in quitting smoking.
Sending a hug.
Re: Update on Ken...
Posted by Paula on 9/14/2018, 10:02 am, in reply to "Update on Ken..."
He sounds like such a great guy and I love what you two have together. It's so damn hard to change these awful habits we have. Best for both of you.|
I'm sorry Ken is
Posted by Sue on 9/14/2018, 8:03 am, in reply to "Update on Ken..."
feeling so stressed right now. Sue hope things improve....especially his health issues.|
Thank you Sue...
Posted by Cindy on 9/14/2018, 9:09 am, in reply to "I'm sorry Ken is"
Heís such a great guy and takes on way too much at times. His girls have him stressed and he has to learn to deal with stress other ways than smoking! |
When I stopped smoking
Posted by Sue on 9/14/2018, 10:04 am, in reply to "Thank you Sue..."
I took up walking to relieve some of the stress/anxiety. It worked great! I started out only walking a mile or so each day.....it eventually increased to 10 or more! That was also part of my weight-loss plan. Once I quit smoking, I started eating more...and gaining weight.|
Definitely sending prayers
Posted by Krista on 9/14/2018, 6:29 am, in reply to "Update on Ken..."
and so glad to hear he's getting in and seeing the docs and getting an action plan. I know how much support you are to him and I hope he can get past this addiction (smokes) and live many many many more years with is loving wife. ♥ |
Posted by Cindy on 9/14/2018, 9:08 am, in reply to "Definitely sending prayers"
Ken is pretty bummed about having to quit smoking- but deep down he wants to. He knows heís headed toward more health problems if he doesnít! |
Tell him everyone is :)
Posted by Krista on 9/14/2018, 9:39 am, in reply to "Thank you..."
Nobody really WANTS to but I think everyone is thankful when they did. Both Ray's brother and sister did after many years. Wishing Ken nothing but success! ♥ |
glad he has that
Posted by shirley on 9/14/2018, 4:46 am, in reply to "Update on Ken..."
cardiologist. 7.2 is diabetic but diet and stopping smoking could make a giant difference, cindy. i will keep him in my prayers. love to you both, dear friend.|
Thank you Shirley...
Posted by Cindy on 9/14/2018, 9:06 am, in reply to "glad he has that"
His family dr is hoping by putting him on metformin that he can get that A1c number down. Ken loves sugary stuff and I tend to buy junk that he likes to eat (cakes, M&Mís, etc.) so that is stopping NOW! I donít want to be part of the problem! I will buy more fresh fruit to have for both of us to eat!|
Re: Thank you Shirley...
Posted by hank on 9/14/2018, 4:08 pm, in reply to "Thank you Shirley..."
GOOD NO MORE JUNK FOOD FOR YOU |
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