Posted by Tass on 3/27/2009, 6:13 am, in reply to "why"
I have no experience with cutting, but I do have a LOT of experience with the 'grow up' part. |
I'm 52 years old, my mom died 2 years ago, and I got the 'grew up' thing until the end.
Now that my mom is gone, my daughter has taken over. When I was married I got it from my wife.
You are doomed buddy, you'll get the 'grow up' thing until your dieing day!
I'll bet Obama get it from his mom and wife too, and the Danish primeminister who apparently is going to be generalsecretary in NATO ( may the gods have mercy on us all) is probably getting it too. He should...
My best advice is: Move! As long as you live with your parents, you'll get it every day, if you move, you'll only get it occasionly.
As I said, I have no experience with cutting, but I have an autistic daughter, who has a selfdamaging behaviour. I have no doubts, that when she hits herself, it is because there is a pain inside, she can't handle, but the pain she inflict on herself, is something she has at least some control over. Pretty much what you said.
She can't escape her autism, but you have in your power to change your life. You know the best what is bothering you at the moment. I think if you change that, and start living a life that is more satisfying, you will feel better.
It is no wonder you feel bad. Going through a divorce which is one of the worst things you can experience, and then live with your parents. Who won't or can't give you the time to heal that you need, that is a lousy situation.
Damn! I sound like Doctor Phil! I wonder if it is something that happens when you turn 50? No! I won't go there! That thought is too scary..
Anyway, good luck. I hope you'll feel better soon.
: I recently started cutting myself on occasion.
: I am 26 years old and forced to move back
: in with my parents due to divorce. My
: parents are generally good people but
: towards me they can be very condescending
: and they lecture or yell instead of actually
: listening to what I have to say. It was
: like this when I was a teenager, but then it
: was supposed to be happening. Now I am
: adult still getting the "grow up"
: leccture. I use the cutting when I get so
: irritated but I can't let out the irritation
: any other way. I cannot even feel the blade
: go into my skin, but all the negative
: emotions flood out. At the same time I feel
: somewhat empowered by being able to
: "handle the pain". It may not
: sound like it makes sense. If you met me
: you likely would have no idea, but I thought
: I'd help shed some light.