Thanks for the response. It's nice to have someone who understands how much it can hurt an ig parent's feelings to have a spat. She's basically back to normal already. She's usually so easy (took two years to get to that point) so it surprised me to see her scared of me even for just that short few minutes. You're advise was spot on. I did exactly what you suggested (even though I didn't have the message yet.) Ironically on our walk the next day a hawk landed in our tree and she decided to come close and be my friend again. I guess I'm not so scary after all.