Posted by parada
on 1/30/2008, 8:21 am, in reply to "Re: You've got to be kidding"
208.138.16.252
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: You copied that entire article about playing
: hard to get from becomeaplayer.com. That's
: just one dudes opinion lady! Playing hard
: to get DOES work for guys. Obviously one
: guy isn't going to know perfectly the manner
: in which to act for every situation for
: every guy.
:
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: : --Previous Message--
: I'm sure that everyone has heard about
: playing
: "hard to get", however, not many
: know why this tactic works so well to
: attract the opposite sex... or the correct
: ways to make it work to your advantage.
: Get out your pen and paper, or get your
: printer ready, because I'm going to break
: it down for you.
: Think of it this way: Remember when you were
: a kid and you were told that you could not
: have something? That made you want it ten
: times more badly, didn't it? We will go to
: great lengths to gain possession of what
: we can not have, simply because it is a
: natural human instinct to strive for what
: is just out of our reach. If this were not
: built into our minds the way it is, I
: highly doubt that our society would be
: even remotely close to being as evolved as
: it is today. We would simply lack the
: necessary motivation.
: When you apply this principle to the dating
: game in the proper manner, it will prove
: to be one of the most powerful weapons in
: your arsenal. Playing "hard to
: get" is much more important than most
: people think, and in my personal opinion
: it is almost necessary to use it on at
: least some sort of level if you plan on
: getting and keeping any beautiful women. I
: say that because just as we want what we
: can not have, in turn we do not want what
: we can easily get. If you do not play
: "hard to get" at all, you are
: placing yourself in the "easy to
: get" category, which is exactly where
: you don't want to be.
: Playing "hard to get" is a fairly
: simple concept once you've learned the
: rules, and that is what I'm about to teach
: you. The only tricky part is being able to
: stick with it, because it will require you
: to fight certain urges that can become
: quite strong. Overcoming these urges is
: next to impossible for the average man,
: who is uneducated on this subject and does
: not know that giving in to these urges is
: a mistake, because they may
: "feel" like the right thing to
: do... that is why I call this the tricky
: part. With that in mind, let's move on to
: the most important stuff, the do's and
: dont's.
:
: Always appear to be busy, even when you
: aren't. Lie or fake it if you have to. If
: you pick up the phone when a woman calls
: you and answer the question "What are
: you doing?" with "Nothing"
: then you've just made a huge (but very
: common) mistake. When you always seem to
: be busy you are displaying to others that
: you are an interesting person with an
: exciting life, the type of life that a
: woman would like to be involved in. On the
: other hand, when you never seem to be
: doing much you will be viewed as a boring
: person. If you are trying to be attractive
: to women, boring will just not make the
: cut, enough said.
:
: Always make it obvious that you are
: attracted
: to her, but never let her know how much
: you really like her. Even if you are madly
: in love with her and can't seem to think
: about anything else, always make her
: believe that you like her ten times less
: than you actually do.
:
: Never initiate anything that has to do with
: a
: commitment. If you want her to be your
: girlfriend wait until she brings the
: subject up. Remember that you've got to
: control these urges!
:
: On that same note... never tell her that you
: love her before she tells you first, and
: when she tells you for the first time
: don't let her know that the feeling is
: mutual right away, wait a few days. This
: is a very important rule, if you mess this
: up it will be the beginning of the end,
: which will come rather quickly.
:
: Unless you are engaged in a long-term
: relationship, never stay on the phone with
: a girl for more than five minutes. Many
: men make this mistake thinking that it is
: a good thing because they are getting to
: know the woman, but what they are actually
: doing is showing the woman that they have
: nothing better to do than sit around
: chatting. This is exactly what I was
: talking about earlier... you must appear
: to be busy ALL of the time, so when her
: five minutes are up tell her that you have
: something to do and need to get off of the
: phone.
:
: Do not always accept her invitations to hang
: out. I like to call this the 50/50 rule
: because you should only accept about half
: of the time. While the other half you
: should gently refuse with your excuse
: being that you have something important to
: do.
:
: Never act as if her behavior bothers you,
: even if it does. For example, if she
: flirts with another guy or if you see her
: with someone else, act like you could
: really care less (only if she is not your
: girlfriend yet, obviously). She is only
: trying to make you jealous in order to
: find out how much you really like her, and
: you are never supposed to let her know
: that, remember? Plus becoming jealous is a
: sign of insecurity, which is not a very
: attractive character trait.
: There are many more techniques that you can
: throw into the mix when you are playing
: "hard to get", and most can be
: found throughout my web site. However,
: they are not necessary and I suggest that
: you perfect your usage of the techniques
: described here first, because these are
: the most important and effective. And
: that, as they say, is that.
:
:
: :Wow! This is not only a sure fire way to
: drive your woman into the hands of another
: equally as horny (and slightly smarter)
: male, but it will also lead you into the
: pits of an unstable relationship.
: While I agree on the validity of the
: "hard to get" concept, there are
: certain things that only a man would
: surely f*ck up for the rest of us.
: This theory, and a slightly more moderate
: version of it, is commonly used by the
: every day woman. There is a reason that
: only woman have mastered such a
: technique...because it most certainly
: doesn't go both ways.
: Granted, the appearing bussy cover-up has no
: immediate consequences, and can actually
: work in some cases. (Used with limits of
: course)
: The first real problem arises in the advise
: to never express how much you dig your
: woman.
: This will not only make her into a unstable
: b###hy mess, but it will most definately
: leave her in a state of uncertainty, that
: is often comforted by the mail,pizza, or
: FedEx boy.If you know what I mean.
: And as for never professing love first, you
: couldn't be more wrong. If you haven't
: noticed, the few cool chicks out there are
: the ones who dont run around vowing to
: love each and everyone of their
: boyfriends. If by chance, and I do mean
: chance, you meet "the one", shes
: smart enough to know how much the
: "L" word scares most men and
: therefore be very reluctant to use it
: first. Furthermore, if you really want to
: wrap her around your finger, say it first,
: mean it, but most importantly make sure
: the feeling is mutual.
: I'm not going to even pretend to understand
: the point of hanging up after a duration
: of 5min. That just makes us realize that
: you must not have much to say, ever, about
: anything.
: I agree that not accepting every hang-out
: opportunity has it's advantages, it should
: never be over used. The 50/50 ratio is
: totally absurd. Another thing that you men
: might not have noticed is that we don't
: like to be the one to invite. So when the
: opportunity arise, you damn well better
: accept, or don't count on it happening
: again. It is safe to decline now and
: again, but dont make a habit of it.
: Lastly, acting like her behavior doesn't
: bother you, believe it or not, makes us
: question your faithfulness to us. For
: example, say we are talking to another
: guy. We are nost certainly trying to make
: you jealous (either that or the thought of
: you hadn't crossed our mind), but more
: importantly, if we see that you dont care
: we will assume you are screwing the coffee
: shop girl. It just gives us a reason to
: think that you dont care because you have
: more than one sexual outlet (not including
: yourself). And that my boys, is more than
: enough reason for any semi-intelligent
: woman to give you the boot.
: This is all granted that you are not dealing
: with any of the following types of
: females: Turbo-slut (in which games aren't
: nessisary)
: 9th graders (they aren't aware of the rules)
: Classic Airhead (It won't matter what you
: do,
: she will still think you are
: "neat")
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