Posted by john doedelby
on 6/19/2004, 10:46 pm, in reply to "You've got to be kidding"
64.33.181.96
You copied that entire article about playing hard to get from becomeaplayer.com. That's just one dudes opinion lady! Playing hard to get DOES work for guys. Obviously one guy isn't going to know perfectly the manner in which to act for every situation for every guy.
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: : --Previous Message--
: I'm sure that everyone has heard about
: playing
: "hard to get", however, not many
: know why this tactic works so well to
: attract the opposite sex... or the correct
: ways to make it work to your advantage.
: Get out your pen and paper, or get your
: printer ready, because I'm going to break
: it down for you.
: Think of it this way: Remember when you were
: a kid and you were told that you could not
: have something? That made you want it ten
: times more badly, didn't it? We will go to
: great lengths to gain possession of what
: we can not have, simply because it is a
: natural human instinct to strive for what
: is just out of our reach. If this were not
: built into our minds the way it is, I
: highly doubt that our society would be
: even remotely close to being as evolved as
: it is today. We would simply lack the
: necessary motivation.
: When you apply this principle to the dating
: game in the proper manner, it will prove
: to be one of the most powerful weapons in
: your arsenal. Playing "hard to
: get" is much more important than most
: people think, and in my personal opinion
: it is almost necessary to use it on at
: least some sort of level if you plan on
: getting and keeping any beautiful women. I
: say that because just as we want what we
: can not have, in turn we do not want what
: we can easily get. If you do not play
: "hard to get" at all, you are
: placing yourself in the "easy to
: get" category, which is exactly where
: you don't want to be.
: Playing "hard to get" is a fairly
: simple concept once you've learned the
: rules, and that is what I'm about to teach
: you. The only tricky part is being able to
: stick with it, because it will require you
: to fight certain urges that can become
: quite strong. Overcoming these urges is
: next to impossible for the average man,
: who is uneducated on this subject and does
: not know that giving in to these urges is
: a mistake, because they may
: "feel" like the right thing to
: do... that is why I call this the tricky
: part. With that in mind, let's move on to
: the most important stuff, the do's and
: dont's.
:
: Always appear to be busy, even when you
: aren't. Lie or fake it if you have to. If
: you pick up the phone when a woman calls
: you and answer the question "What are
: you doing?" with "Nothing"
: then you've just made a huge (but very
: common) mistake. When you always seem to
: be busy you are displaying to others that
: you are an interesting person with an
: exciting life, the type of life that a
: woman would like to be involved in. On the
: other hand, when you never seem to be
: doing much you will be viewed as a boring
: person. If you are trying to be attractive
: to women, boring will just not make the
: cut, enough said.
:
: Always make it obvious that you are attracted
: to her, but never let her know how much
: you really like her. Even if you are madly
: in love with her and can't seem to think
: about anything else, always make her
: believe that you like her ten times less
: than you actually do.
:
: Never initiate anything that has to do with a
: commitment. If you want her to be your
: girlfriend wait until she brings the
: subject up. Remember that you've got to
: control these urges!
:
: On that same note... never tell her that you
: love her before she tells you first, and
: when she tells you for the first time
: don't let her know that the feeling is
: mutual right away, wait a few days. This
: is a very important rule, if you mess this
: up it will be the beginning of the end,
: which will come rather quickly.
:
: Unless you are engaged in a long-term
: relationship, never stay on the phone with
: a girl for more than five minutes. Many
: men make this mistake thinking that it is
: a good thing because they are getting to
: know the woman, but what they are actually
: doing is showing the woman that they have
: nothing better to do than sit around
: chatting. This is exactly what I was
: talking about earlier... you must appear
: to be busy ALL of the time, so when her
: five minutes are up tell her that you have
: something to do and need to get off of the
: phone.
:
: Do not always accept her invitations to hang
: out. I like to call this the 50/50 rule
: because you should only accept about half
: of the time. While the other half you
: should gently refuse with your excuse
: being that you have something important to
: do.
:
: Never act as if her behavior bothers you,
: even if it does. For example, if she
: flirts with another guy or if you see her
: with someone else, act like you could
: really care less (only if she is not your
: girlfriend yet, obviously). She is only
: trying to make you jealous in order to
: find out how much you really like her, and
: you are never supposed to let her know
: that, remember? Plus becoming jealous is a
: sign of insecurity, which is not a very
: attractive character trait.
: There are many more techniques that you can
: throw into the mix when you are playing
: "hard to get", and most can be
: found throughout my web site. However,
: they are not necessary and I suggest that
: you perfect your usage of the techniques
: described here first, because these are
: the most important and effective. And
: that, as they say, is that.
:
:
: :Wow! This is not only a sure fire way to
: drive your woman into the hands of another
: equally as horny (and slightly smarter)
: male, but it will also lead you into the
: pits of an unstable relationship.
: While I agree on the validity of the
: "hard to get" concept, there are
: certain things that only a man would
: surely f*ck up for the rest of us.
: This theory, and a slightly more moderate
: version of it, is commonly used by the
: every day woman. There is a reason that
: only woman have mastered such a
: technique...because it most certainly
: doesn't go both ways.
: Granted, the appearing bussy cover-up has no
: immediate consequences, and can actually
: work in some cases. (Used with limits of
: course)
: The first real problem arises in the advise
: to never express how much you dig your
: woman.
: This will not only make her into a unstable
: b###hy mess, but it will most definately
: leave her in a state of uncertainty, that
: is often comforted by the mail,pizza, or
: FedEx boy.If you know what I mean. 
: And as for never professing love first, you
: couldn't be more wrong. If you haven't
: noticed, the few cool chicks out there are
: the ones who dont run around vowing to
: love each and everyone of their
: boyfriends. If by chance, and I do mean
: chance, you meet "the one", shes
: smart enough to know how much the
: "L" word scares most men and
: therefore be very reluctant to use it
: first. Furthermore, if you really want to
: wrap her around your finger, say it first,
: mean it, but most importantly make sure
: the feeling is mutual.
: I'm not going to even pretend to understand
: the point of hanging up after a duration
: of 5min. That just makes us realize that
: you must not have much to say, ever, about
: anything.
: I agree that not accepting every hang-out
: opportunity has it's advantages, it should
: never be over used. The 50/50 ratio is
: totally absurd. Another thing that you men
: might not have noticed is that we don't
: like to be the one to invite. So when the
: opportunity arise, you damn well better
: accept, or don't count on it happening
: again. It is safe to decline now and
: again, but dont make a habit of it.
: Lastly, acting like her behavior doesn't
: bother you, believe it or not, makes us
: question your faithfulness to us. For
: example, say we are talking to another
: guy. We are nost certainly trying to make
: you jealous (either that or the thought of
: you hadn't crossed our mind), but more
: importantly, if we see that you dont care
: we will assume you are screwing the coffee
: shop girl. It just gives us a reason to
: think that you dont care because you have
: more than one sexual outlet (not including
: yourself). And that my boys, is more than
: enough reason for any semi-intelligent
: woman to give you the boot.
: This is all granted that you are not dealing
: with any of the following types of
: females: Turbo-slut (in which games aren't
: nessisary)
: 9th graders (they aren't aware of the rules)
: Classic Airhead (It won't matter what you do,
: she will still think you are
: "neat")
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