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Re: Leaving San Francisco

Posted by J.L. on 5/22/2005, 11:41 pm, in reply to "Re: Leaving San Francisco"
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I would be happy with just knowing why your leaving a blue state for a red state? And in the south!!
--Previous Message--
: : I think I've always suggested that
: if you don't love it, then leave
: it (for your own happiness).
:
: Yes, there is nothing negative
: about "love it or leave
: it." In fact, it looks from
: the statistics, and my anecdotal
: experience, that if couples find
: they don't love each other any
: more, they will surely find
: leaving each other a real relief.
:
: Whilst what you say does, in fact,
: match our actions, I think what
: David meant by his portrayal of
: the "love it or leave
: it" philosophy is that it's
: intellectually lazy. Whether
: you're talking about a
: dysfunctional bit of geography or
: a marriage or a movie, you have
: more than the choice of loving it
: and leaving it - there's the
: possibility of tolerating it or
: endeavoring to improve it.
:
: If I cared all that much anymore
: about the type of city I lived in
: or where it was, I would have the
: energy and inspiration to try to
: make SF more livable for myself.
: If David and I are getting upset
: with each other, we engage in
: mutual psychoanalysis rather than
: break up. If a movie is boring, I
: get more popcorn and maybe start
: people watching or passing notes
: to the people I'm with in the
: theatre.
:
: From Sister Betty: "Yet,
: sometimes we fool ourselves
: thinking the next place will be
: sparkly-shiney. Pretty much
: nowhere is sparkly-shiney. Every
: place is just somewhere
: else."
:
: That sums up my feelings of late.
: Don't get me wrong, I still have
: my little obsessions, like Seattle
: and Pittsburgh and Canada, places
: that I just know can do no wrong -
: but that obsession would wear off
: as soon as I chose to live there.
: It's no longer exactly about
: "where" for me as it is
: "how". I'm choosing to
: go somewhere that will allow me a
: wider range of "hows".
:
: I doubt many people arrive at
: their dream city and spend years
: so happy they're having a
: never-ending orgasm (unless you
: come to SF and do nothing but go
: to sex clubs). People have their
: dream lifestyles and life is about
: building that dream. You never
: achieve it, because it's a dream.
: It's the process of building it
: that one has to look forward to.
:
: And perhaps the opportunity to
: rant and rave about the people who
: are in your way and pissing you
: off about the smallest things as
: you go. Yeah, that's what life's
: all about...
:
: MM
:

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Leaving San Francisco - Bill S 4/29/2005, 6:09 pm
- Re: Leaving San Francisco - robW 5/6/2005, 2:47 pm
  - Re: Leaving San Francisco - murderingmouth 5/8/2005, 8:14 pm
    - Re: Leaving San Francisco - J.L. 5/22/2005, 11:41 pm
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--Previous Message-- : I would be happy with just knowing : why your leaving a blue state for : a red state? And in the south!! : : --Previous Message-- : : I think I've always suggested : that : if you don't love it, then leave : it (for your own happiness). : : Yes, there is nothing negative : about "love it or leave : it." In fact, it looks from : the statistics, and my anecdotal : experience, that if couples find : they don't love each other any : more, they will surely find : leaving each other a real relief. : : Whilst what you say does, in fact, : match our actions, I think what : David meant by his portrayal of : the "love it or leave : it" philosophy is that it's : intellectually lazy. Whether : you're talking about a : dysfunctional bit of geography or : a marriage or a movie, you have : more than the choice of loving it : and leaving it - there's the : possibility of tolerating it or : endeavoring to improve it. : : If I cared all that much anymore : about the type of city I lived in : or where it was, I would have the : energy and inspiration to try to : make SF more livable for myself. : If David and I are getting upset : with each other, we engage in : mutual psychoanalysis rather than : break up. If a movie is boring, I : get more popcorn and maybe start : people watching or passing notes : to the people I'm with in the : theatre. : : From Sister Betty: "Yet, : sometimes we fool ourselves : thinking the next place will be : sparkly-shiney. Pretty much : nowhere is sparkly-shiney. Every : place is just somewhere : else." : : That sums up my feelings of late. : Don't get me wrong, I still have : my little obsessions, like Seattle : and Pittsburgh and Canada, places : that I just know can do no wrong - : but that obsession would wear off : as soon as I chose to live there. : It's no longer exactly about : "where" for me as it is : "how". I'm choosing to : go somewhere that will allow me a : wider range of "hows". : : I doubt many people arrive at : their dream city and spend years : so happy they're having a : never-ending orgasm (unless you : come to SF and do nothing but go : to sex clubs). People have their : dream lifestyles and life is about : building that dream. You never : achieve it, because it's a dream. : It's the process of building it : that one has to look forward to. : : And perhaps the opportunity to : rant and rave about the people who : are in your way and pissing you : off about the smallest things as : you go. Yeah, that's what life's : all about... : : MM : : :

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