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Posted by Danielle on 1/10/2006, 2:08 am, in reply to "Girlfriend having an over-night guest OK?" A girlfriend with integrity and maturity would tell the "drunken gay" that she has a boyfriend and that he will need to get a hotel room that night. A decent girlfriend might meet up with him for a brief cup of coffee and graciously invite you along, whereby you could decline because you don't know him, and meet up with her right afterwards and do something nice together. A mature decent girlfriend who actually CARES about your relationship, would be mroe respectful to you and be less accomodating to him. She sounds immature.. and one day the tables will be turned on her and she'll have to deal with a boyfriend who puts her second or third, over his "women friends". I'd tell her you need a break from your get-togethers, and you have some other social things to do with friends (without her). Give it a rest and give the r/s some space while you take care of your own social needs (which should not always include her). She's not serious about you, but it could be she's not placing you first because she's not worried that you'll ever leave her. I think there should be discussions and consequences for her choices, and those consequences are that she loses much of your faith and loyalty toward her. Then see whether she cares about the consequences. Don't be a doormat or a pushover. Don't cave in too quickly. Women respect men who aren't too easy to manipulate.
She has decided that this other guy is more important than you are.
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