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Posted by Mya
on 2/10/2006, 9:03 am
all right, first I have to let you all know I am 31 - and still dealing with this problem - my mother. A boyfriend from the past that yes I admitt was a real scum bag back in the day has now resurfaced and my feelings are stil very strong as his as well. He has done a lot of growing up even admitts he does not blame my mother for hating him, he was not a good person back then - well he did not portray a good person in public ever. I told him once he gets home i give him 3 months, job, no drinking no bull shit. if he can do this then I will go further with him. He wants to get married, here is the deal, I rent and work for mom she has made it clear that if he does come home he is not allowed at my house that I rent from her, is that legal? anyhow I see were it is going if I take him back I loose home and job. But from my point of view this man is the only man I could ever love, have ever loved besides my ex-husband of 10 years. I have known him for 7 years and I know the real him, he is a great person, yes he is a bit thuggish, wild but that is what I like about him and he knows how to be real. When I met him I felt as if I met my soul mate, the first time I had that feeling since my husband. Trust me I have tried to date but nothing comes close. I love this guy and know that he is the only one I could ever be with forever.
So what do I do....
my plan is to keep it on the down low when he first comes home, hiding anything that might go on - him coming to my home whatever. My son has agreed to also not tell grandma, which is terrible I know to have him lie for me but my mother is crazy. I love her and want her to accept this but how do I do that?
is 3 months enough time, because as I said if he does good for the 3 months I figured we would then get married then what could mom say? technically I looked into the laws and they could not throw me out of my home if I married, and firing me over my choice of boyfriends is also illegal, but I dont want to go there with her - what are my choices though.
I do not bring it up with her anymore because she just flips out.
Advice very needed and welcome
thanks
any young girls reading this - beware see the rath of mommy never ends.... 31 and still dealing with it!LOL
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