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Posted by Nillson on 2/23/2006, 2:09 pm I think she is a great person, and I care for her very much. I am just concerned about the communication, the trust and the recent divorce.
I have been dating this woman for about six months now and I am having concerns about continuing with the relationship. I think she is a great person, and I love her very much. My concerns are these:
1. She has trouble communicating. Something I had done was bothering her, and so the way she expressed it was to get mad at me while we were on a bike ride (acting basically like a 8 year old throwing a tantrum). This had actually been brewing for about four days before she finally said something. Part of her anger she said was the fact that I did not ask her what was troubling her. She told me afterwards that was one of the things bothering her (that I had not asked her). She also told me that she expects me to ask her when it appears something is troubling her. Other things have inluded: being upset with me because I did not talk about our future plans on Valentines Day, thinking that I looked at another woman, and spending some time with my parents on a trip we took to the Bahamas.
2. She has trouble with trust. As example, when my cell phone rings and the caller ID says unknown, I usually know it is a telemarketer calling. If it is someone I know by chance, they leave a message. Telemarketers don't. Well, she wants to know why I don't answer my phone when it says unknown, and then I was gone one time for a few minutes (I was checking the mail box), I came back and caught her looking through all the numbers in my cell phone.
3. She is just recently divorced. In fact, had about a month between moving out of her ex's house and starting to date me. I think that you need time between something like divorce and starting any new relationship. And I have asked her if she thinks she really wants to be in a relationship so soon after her divorce (basically saying maybe she needs some time to herself). I have been trying to be patient and move slowly on things because of being so recently divorced. I still see a few things left over in her from the divorce which concerns me.
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