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Posted by Samone on 6/19/2006, 11:49 am
I have been married to my husband for almost 5years now,we met in a 40's chat room,chatted for 5 months before we finally met in person,got married a year after we met almost to the day. Well the problem is when we first got married I suggested that we live apart TEMPORARALLY because we got married on Jan.1 and my son was going to be graduating high school on June 16th...which was about 5 months away and for me to pull my son out of high school with only 5 months to go and make him do his LAST 5 months of school at a NEW school where he knew NO ONE was not right and I did not want to put my son through that since he had known his friends that he would be graduating with since he was in kindergarden!!! So we opted to live apart till my son graduated and then find a new home after that...note my husband lived 45 miles from the house I was living in and my house was not even a block from my son's school...make sense??? To me it did and we agreed,we had also agreed that we were NOT going to live in the home that he lived in and had raised his family with his x-wife and we were not going to live in the home that I raised my kids in and lived with my x-husband,when the time came we would live in OUR NEW HOME. Well my husband has full custody of his two daughters,who are 13 and 16 years old and over the past 4 years they have been so much trouble to him and our relationship, from sex,drugs,drinking,stealing,not attending school,and alot more! I am NOT used to childern that misbehave because my kids attend school, work and have NEVER gotten in to ANY kind of trouble!! Well I am and always have been more than willing to live in a home with him and his kids and work through ANY and ALL problems that may arise.But he now has come up with SOOOOOO many reasons,excuses or whatever you want to lable them not to sell his house in order for us to move in together from me not getting along with his kids,location,money,time,commitment and more!!We have now been married 4 years and have NEVER lived together and I am ready to hit divorce court because I am at my wits end!!! I have tried not saying anything about it and being patient,to giving ultimatums and just crying. I love him to death and do not want this marriage to end at all but I did not get married to be ALONE!!!and I am tired of living alone yet married.He has it made in the fact that he has spent the night at my home anytime he wants,we go on road trips,dinner and the movies then he jumps in his truck and drives home to a bachelor life...he is not the type to foul around,as a matter afact that is the ONE thing we both agreed would end our marriage INSTANTLY...being unfaithful in any way and I totally trust him.I just think it has becaome alot easier for him to come enjoy me and my company then go home and deal with his kids and their problems and not mix the two!! If I could go back and change things I would not have suggested we live apart till my son graduated had I known this was going to happen...please help!!any suggestions???
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