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Posted by Deborah
on 6/24/2006, 9:56 am, in reply to "What do I do???"
Dear Simone,
When I read your letter it reminded me so much of my past and I had to respond. I can only give you advice based on my own mistakes and for no other reason. First of all, When you marry someone that you know has children, you have to make a committment to that man AS WELL AS his family. You can't think that it is only going to be the two of you. You have to look at the whole picture.You have to know that there will be problems and you have to commit to working through it together no matter what happens. It doesn't matter where you live or who's house you live in. You make that house YOUR home and you make your own memories there with your husband and family. Yes, some other woman might of lived there but, that is beside the point if you really love this man. A house is just sticks and stones it's the memories you make there that make it a home. Would you feel any differently had his wife died? Could you live in her house then? Just as you will have memories of your ex and the times that you shared with him and your children so will your new husband, that doesn't mean that he doesn't love you. Even in the best of families there are problems. Most of them are temporary and others are not. Don't spend the good years bickering over things that really don't matter. I wish I could go back and do it over again. I would of done so many things differently. If you want this marriage make it happen. If not get out of it and stop wasting your time and his. Hope this helps...Deb
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