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Posted by Patricia
on 7/14/2006, 2:20 am
I have been married for almost 14 years. We have 4 kids. When we married, my husband was in his second year of college. I made it clear to him that I wanted to stay in my hometown which is where we met and got married, and I told him to do some research to make sure he could get a job there in whatever he finished school in. This is a smaller town with not much industry, so he finished college with a business degree. We struggled with 3 or 4 layoffs and money problems and very reluctantly, I felt forced to move on so he could get some experience. We have lived in 3 different places now for the past five years, the current place being the absolute worst place on earth, and I am so incredibly lonely and homesick. I despise the place we currently live. I barely tolerated it during the school year, and now I am basically living between my mother and my in-laws in my hometown this summer while my husband is still working in the current place we unfortunately moved to. He has applied to a couple of jobs now in my hometown and had an interview, but has not heard back yet and it has been three weeks. He was told at the interview that two of the people who interviewed him would be gone for a week apiece on summer vacation and then the whole place closed down for a week over the 4th of July. I told my husband if he does not get this job, I would rather we sell the house we bought in the current place he has a job and he rent something cheap for himself there and I rent something cheap for me and the kids here in my hometown. I don't feel I need to punished further for his stupidity in not only taking this stupid job in this awful place but forcing us to continue living there. Let me put it this way---I would rather be dead by 100% than live there any longer. I can't stand anything about the place, and I couldn't care less if he has to take a job digging graves just so he gets us back home. Sometimes he says he doesn't want to live there anymore either and other times, he calls and torments me, like he did tonight, telling me that we agreed to move there, he has a job there, and we need to just stay there and if I choose not to live there, I'm free to get a job and an apartment in my hometown, but he expects all four kids back at the end of the summer for school. I told the kids that, knowing they hate the place as much as me, and I got a lot tears and upset kids over it. None of them want anything to do with the place. My oldest son is falling through the cracks at the high school because no one cares there. My 13 year old daughter is being tormented at the middle school being called a lesbian which is not true and she came home in tears every single day. My 9 year old daughter was being picked on and taken advantage of these kids who claimed to be her "friend". Even my husband has said he hates his job, the house we bought is disgusting, our neighbors are the most unfriendly people I have ever seen in my life and the cost of living is ridiculous. I just feel sick inside at the thought of tolerating that place anymore for someone's job. I would rather not have him in my life anymore than live in that place. Do I just tell him See Ya and stay here with the kids or give him a chance to get a job here no matter how long it takes even though my mental health is at serious risk by living in the hellhole he moved us to?
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