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Posted by Elizabeth
on 9/1/2005, 5:00 am
I finally met the man of my dreams, reall yhe is wonderful, however, I have been seriously considering the long-term aspects of our relationship because of his son. We both have children, mine are elementary school age, his son is 24 and still living at home. He recently decided to go to college, but I am having doubts as to wether he will actually stick with college. I can deal with the fact his son, whom I will call "Kelby", is a know it all...... they all are at that age, and I accept the fact his "future goals" are to get to be good friends with wrestlers and eventually become one, (We all have goals!) I bite when my tongue when Kelby tries to parent my kids and basically try to shoo my kids out of the area when he is around or motherhen them so he will mind his business...I relunctently gave up on doing things to the house... KELBYS' house, because he sniped at me every time I tried to redoecorate. (The house is filled with traveling carnival trinkets,walmart clearence items, stuffed animals, etc, that he has bought as "gifts" for the family. Some dating back to the early 80's. I am an ecclectic world traveler type of decorater, expensive fabrics, texture, sculpture and fine art!)So, the transition has not exactly been smooth...My kids and I are the artsy, coffee and poetry, vintage shops, whole grain foods types.... Kelby is WWF, Monster trucks, Friends, McDonalds & Dairy Queen, save everything type. I live with all this, and realize we need to make adjustments......My problem is a couple of months ago I was doing yard work and joking around with Kelby, like I would joke around with any CHILD, nothing sexual or overly friendly at all, next thing I know Kelby tells me to stop flirting with him....Then proceeds to tell me that when his Dad asked me out that he himself was going to if is Dad kept waiting....Kelby says he wants an older women and his next girlfriend is going to be around my age. I was shocked. I flat out told him that I though of him as a child and absolutely under no circumstances would I ever even consider dating him even if I had not been interested in his father. Since this conversation, Kelby follows me everywhere, if I go outside he is right behind me, in the bathroom he is knocking on the door, I have tried everything other than being downright rude to clue him in that I want him to stay away from me. I am completely uncomfortable around him now. I am sinking into depression, I cannot tell his father as I am not going to attempt to come between father and son, but I do not feel like this is even my house, I feel like a visitor and I don't like it at all. I figured his Dad and I would live a wonderful life together, but I am more an more having doubts. I spend alot of time in my room and if chance happens I am alone at the house with Kelby I will just leave and drive around until someone else comes home or until he leaves. He is supposed to leave for college, but he will be back... I have been getting snappy towards him because I am still angry about what he said.. I am worried this will cause problems in our relationship.......... Anyone have any ideas????
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