Posted by Anders
on March 17, 2009, 9:45:18
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Hi,
I met my boyfriend about 2 years ago (we're gay). I had just stopped smoking before that. He smokes cigarettes and joints when drinking (maybe one evening a week and the afternoons of the weekends). After smoking the occasional joint mixed with tobacco with him for a while, we went on holiday together last summer, and in a drunken haze I started smoking again. Around the same time I moved in with him.
Now the problem is that I only seem to be allowed to smoke indoors when he smokes. I am a pretty non-confrontational person, and have not really tried to push for it, but that does not seem fair to me. He owns the house, but I pay him rent, and feel that there are two different rules in play here: He smokes when he wants, but does not like it when he doesn't himself.
In a way he has the upper hand since it is his place and he does not need to smoke, i.e. he can take or leave it. I'm not planning to chain-smoke in his face at breakfast, but I feel I should be allowed to for example smoke in the office downstairs (I work from home) when he is watching television upstairs, after he has gone to bed, or when the weather is really bad.
If our house was really a non-smoking house, I would not object to going outdoors, but that is clearly not the case in our situation since the house is being smoked in whenever he decides. Does anybody have any advice?
Thanks
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