Posted by Answerer on June 17, 2009, 12:26:13, in reply to "How to persuade my boyfriend to let me smoke in the house?"
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Did you ever just talk to him? Tell him you need a place where you can go and smoke from time to time in the house. He should be willing ot create a "designated" smoking area of the house. I do not smoke inside during good weather, but when the weather is bad out, the basement is the "designated smoking area".
Good Luck!
--Previous Message--
: Hi,
:
: I met my boyfriend about
: 2 years ago (we're gay).
: I had just stopped
: smoking before that. He
: smokes cigarettes and
: joints when drinking
: (maybe one evening a
: week and the afternoons
: of the weekends). After
: smoking the occasional
: joint mixed with tobacco
: with him for a while, we
: went on holiday together
: last summer, and in a
: drunken haze I started
: smoking again. Around
: the same time I moved in
: with him.
:
: Now the problem is that
: I only seem to be
: allowed to smoke indoors
: when he smokes. I am a
: pretty
: non-confrontational
: person, and have not
: really tried to push for
: it, but that does not
: seem fair to me. He owns
: the house, but I pay him
: rent, and feel that
: there are two different
: rules in play here: He
: smokes when he wants,
: but does not like it
: when he doesn't himself.
:
: In a way he has the
: upper hand since it is
: his place and he does
: not need to smoke, i.e.
: he can take or leave it.
: I'm not planning to
: chain-smoke in his face
: at breakfast, but I feel
: I should be allowed to
: for example smoke in the
: office downstairs (I
: work from home) when he
: is watching television
: upstairs, after he has
: gone to bed, or when the
: weather is really bad.
:
: If our house was really
: a non-smoking house, I
: would not object to
: going outdoors, but that
: is clearly not the case
: in our situation since
: the house is being
: smoked in whenever he
: decides. Does anybody
: have any advice?
:
: Thanks
:
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