Posted by Blbear2000
on 5/6/2008, 3:40 pm, in reply to "Re: quitting?"
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If anyone is truly serious about quitting, it can be done. First of all, one has to truly want to quit and not just give it "lip service."
This is an opinion but I have a feeling that the odds of being successful are extremely reduced if someone has a smoking fetish. They can cut down but because there is a smoking and sexual relationship, they will mentally go together in that person's mind. You can quit smoking but I am not sure that it is possible to eliminate the mental attraction. For some, the excitement is in being able to hide it from family members or coworkers etc.
In my own case, I was a very late bloomer. I can give you every reason in the book for quitting but I really and truly enjoy smoking and it is a turn on for me in my relationships. Non smokers just do not turn me on like someone who is at least a social smoker. The addiction is probably stronger mentally than is the physical addiction. Will I ever quit? I very much doubt it because it also feeds the hidden inner rebellion part of a pretty normal guy in most respects.
People who I know who have quit, have done it in a number of different ways. It is very difficult to quit if you have others in the house that smoke. You have to get rid of everything related to smoking and that means smokes, ashtrays, lighters, and sights like this. It may require changing places of social relaxation and even some friendships. Some quit cold turkey, some taper down, some use aides, hypnosis, or differing kinds of therapy.
This is not meant as an insult but for guys, switching to cigars or pipes from cigarettes is not quitting. It is just changing the preferred mode. It is still smoking. Chew is still tobacco albeit a different form.
As for social smoking, I know people who do it but typically they do not inhale or their inhales are very weak. Some probably can do it as long as they have very strong will power and they do not spend a lot of time in situations where they bum cigarettes from others who smoke.
A lot of people who are social smokers will become smokers given the situations that they place themselves in. I do not know how true it is but evidently, military service seems to be a place where many nons who went in come out smoking. This is not just a thing with kids, it does happen with adults too.
Just some opinions on this one from a long list of life experiences.
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