Posted by ReneeDee on 6/1/2008, 9:32 am, in reply to "closet smoker wants to come out"
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Curious dude: me thinks you are bit presumptuous!!--Renee
--Previous Message--
: I am a 49 year old married woman with one
: daughter and I have been a closet smoker for
: the past 30 years. Only my husband, my
: daughter, one of my two brothers and a
: trusted cousin are the only family members
: who know my secret. My brother and cousin
: came into the fold when they married smokers
: in whom I was able to confide.
:
: To make my long story short, I first started
: smoking at 19 while in college. I chose to
: become what you may call a light or social
: smoker consuming usually three to five cigs
: per day. I chose this route because
: informing my parents was not an option. So
: through the years I drifted in and out of my
: smoking habit, often going weeks or even
: months without a cigarette.
: But I always started up again.
: Two years ago, after some discussion and
: debate, hubby (who by the way is a
: nonsmoker, but supportive of my smoking) and
: I agreed that I would reveal my self to our
: daughter, who was then 15. As she matured,
: the risk of being "caught in the
: act" was increasing. So when we did
: tell her she seemed rather indifferent about
: the whole thing. This lasted for only a
: couple weeks until one evening she asked me
: for if she could try a cigarette. Now at 17
: she has blossomed into a closet
: smoker--doing her smoking only at home. She
: occasionally talks about coming out.
:
: I have decided I want to come out because
: I'm tired of all the BS and the sneaking
: around.
: I enjoy it too much to quit. My parents are
: no longer an issue. Hubby however is
: ambivalent. He says that the number of cigs
: that I smoke out in the open will increase
: because I will no longer be in the closet
: and have the need for concealment. As a
: result, the financial costs of my habit will
: rise along the risk of smoking-related
: illnesses. Hubby also claims that we will be
: socially pariahtized by our friend virtually
: all nonsmokers. He is also worried that his
: career will suffer--he's in management of a
: growing hi-tech business run by health and
: fitness freaks who abhor smoking and he
: would be the only one with a smoking wife.
: Lastly, he says that if our daughter chooses
: to follow my lead, her social life and
: career opportunities will be very limited
: because nobody at this point in time wants
: anything to do with smokers.
:
: I would appreciate hearing from any other
: former closet smokers who had to deal with
: similar issues, before finalising my
: decision.
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