Posted by mick d
on 5/13/2009, 9:45 am, in reply to "Re: Closet Smoker almost being caught?"
69.95.129.107
"myself",
(got to tell ya, it is difficult to draft a response to someone called "myself"), but what the hell I guess...
Interesting you should mention that likely it is also the smoke from your lungs attributing to the smell in your room as well as the smoke you blow out the window. I often smoke a cigarette between walking from my apartment to my car which is sometimes a city block away. Inevitably, even though I finish the cig before I even get to the car, I can smell it pretty well once I am driving away.
One thing you have to know, and that is that this Dave chap loves being extreme and professing how it is "impossible to this" --- "isn’t going to happen that" --- he is the quintessential doom and gloom advice giver.
I disagree with him on the impossibility of it all, but I do agree that your mom is likely sensitized and tipped off now - she is so much more likely to notice now that she already has smelled smoke.
I hate to say it, but you do have a problem indeed (though possibly more a problem of perspective: the perspective of a secretive smoker - anyone else would be like, "WTF??!!"
A small fan in the window might help, but at this point, it is too late, I think. If it doesn't work as well as you need it to, inevitably she is going to bust you...
I also wonder: if you are a young adult of at least 18, you know you don't HAVE TO live at home you know. If you are of age, gee whiz Einstein, maybe it really is time to find an apartment by yourself.
Before getting married I lived in apartments by myself for years.
It is amazing what the freedom to smoke in your own space is like - just food for thought, bro.
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--Previous Message--
: I'm assuming here that you are a young adult
: living with your parents, since you say you
: go out to clubs. If you won't or can't forgo
: your before-sleep cigarette, then you are
: going to have to find a way to get out of
: the house to do it, and then back in without
: getting caught (because you WILL smell like
: smoke upon returning). No matter how careful
: you think you are, and no matter what you do
: to try to cover it up, I can guarantee you
: are correct that your mother will find you
: out if you don't make a change--especially
: now that she's been alerted by the lingering
: odor. Smokers are quick to forget how
: incredibly easy it is for a non-smoker to
: detect even the faintest hint of tobacco
: smoke or its residue; even if you were to
: stand with your body halfway out of the
: window and blow the smoke up and away from
: your room while a fan placed inside the room
: provided additional support, I promise you
: that the smell will STILL be quite
: noticeable in that room many hours later. So
: don't fool yourself--if you don't want to
: get caught, you simply can't smoke while
: inside your house.
:
: --Previous Message--
: Hey!
:
: First I must tell you that I live with my
: parents.
: I started smoking in August 2007... I've
: always done it in the closet, but for more
: than one year I only smoked about 1
: cigarette a day on avarage (sometimes a bit
: more, sometimes none).
:
: Since October 2008 my addiction started
: getting bigger and I increased my daily
: ammount a little bit.
:
: This makes me smoke everyday right before
: going to bed when my parents are already
: sleeping.
: I open the windows of my bedroom and smoke.
: I always make sure that no smoke comes to
: the inside of the house.
:
: For the last 6 and a half months I thought
: that I was doing everything perfectly and my
: parents didn't notice anything.
:
: Suddenly, today, my mother told me then when
: she entered my bedroom in the mornings it
: kind of smelled like smoke.
: I told her it could be from many things, but
: it was probably because of a shirt that I
: use when I go to some clubs at night where
: people smoke, and that I forgot to send to
: laundry.
:
: I know that it was a bad excuse but that's
: what came to my mind under pressure.
:
: Now, the thing is: I don't want to tell my
: parents that I've been smoking, but I don't
: want to stop smoking too (specially before
: going to sleep).
:
: So, in my situation, what would you do? I
: think that if I don't change nothing of the
: things that I've been doing I'll be caught
: soon.
:
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