Posted by Paul on 5/15/2009, 3:19 am, in reply to "Re: closet smoker support "
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All of the responses are dead on. Not sure what to do but w ill probably keep on smoking for a while. Never been addicted to anything before and I'm sure I could quit if I truly wanted too. But it make getting up easier in the mo rning and life is terminal anyway. This is the support that I was looking for. Although I guess I should be looking for the support to quit. Maybe next week.....
--Previous Message--
: It's sure a lot easier to just decide that
: quitting isn't gonna happen, that's for
: sure. When I first realized that I was
: hooked, I began to feel ambivalent at best
: about being a smoker. I knew that for me,
: fulfilling the need to light up was a lot of
: what made smoking such so enjoyable though,
: so instead of an inner monologue that said
: "I wish I could quit" mine said
: "I wish I'd never found out why so many
: people love to smoke". Which was even
: more dumb in a way, because it was not
: knowing why people smoked that made me try
: it to begin with.
:
: I made a few serious attempts to quit over
: the years, and I never lasted longer than a
: week-and-a-half or so. The nicotine may be
: gone from my system in a short time, but the
: memory of how incredibly good it feels to
: light up and take a long, deep drag when I
: really feel the need to smoke is not a
: memory I'm gonna be able to erase. I'd have
: to be something other than human for that
: kind of pleasure not to become a need. I'm
: sure that some would say that it's weak, or
: a cop-out, but I've pretty much quit trying
: to quit. I wish I could say that instead, I
: will keep my smoking to two packs+ a year,
: but with me it's more like two packs a week
: (I live alone and my work is fairly
: solitary, so I've usually gotten away with
: it). Still, I think my method is basically
: the same as what you describe--accept that I
: enjoy smoking too much to quit, and try to
: keep the nicotine monster happy without
: going overboard. That's one of the main
: reasons why, after having come out of the
: smoking closet at work a while back, I
: didn't just throw the closet door open all
: the way and tell everyone; if I became
: comfortable as a smoker in all of the arenas
: of my life, I've no doubt at all that I'd
: quickly become a regular pack-plus-a-day
: man.
:
: Alright, sorry for the rambling. It's late,
: and I should be in bed already. But first, I
: gotta get in that one last cigarette of the
: day...
:
: Dave
:
: --Previous Message--
: Dave, you are so right about everything you
: said! That's why I've decided never to quit.
: Quitting would just be me being too cruel to
: myself. Smoking every day is also too cruel,
: so I'm going to cut back to 2 packs a year,
: with a couple of binge weeks per year.
:
: @Paul: A pack a day of Pall Malls!? How
: can anybody keep that hidden? You may as
: well invite everybody to a party and chain
: in front of them. You enjoy it, you do it
: a lot, quitting will be tough, hiding it
: will be tougher. I think you should just
: confess and smoke on.
:
: --Previous Message--
: It's probably true that for a lot of us, our
: addiction runs deeper than this, but just
: skimming the surface: Rare is the person who
: can thoroughly enjoy something and not want
: more of it, at least on occasion. Can you
: imagine deciding never to eat your favorite
: foods ever again? To give up your favorite
: hobby for good? Anything you truly like,
: that brings you satisfaction and pleasure,
: lights up the same pleasure pathways in the
: brain--leading you to seek it out again.
:
: I think that some people who have never been
: smokers assume that at some point something
: just clicks for a beginning smoker and
: wham--they're addicted. But of course that
: doesn't happen--becoming addicted to
: cigarettes is as subtle a process as
: learning to salivate on your way home on
: Friday, in anticipation of the pot roast
: that you're used to having every week on
: that day. That's why when light smokers say
: they're not hooked, the first thing I want
: to as is if they'd be willing and able to
: give it up for good, and never smoke again.
: If the answer is "no", then
: tobacco has already got its claws in them,
: no matter what they might think or how long
: they say they can go without. They just
: don't realize they're addicted yet.
:
: Dave
:
:
: --Previous Message--
: i know what you mean.
:
: i started almost 2 years ago. i have never
: smoked many cigarettes a day but after more
: than one year of smoking i thought that i
: was different because i didn't feel
: addicted.
:
: well, today i can't say the same. i'm
: addicted and i didn't even notice how the
: addiction grew right inside of me.
:
: i'm a closet smoker, don't want to come out
: of the closet to some people (my family) and
: althought i know that i'm almost being
: caught bt them i can't stop smoking.
:
: now i realise that not even smoking many
: cigarettes a day i am very addicted. but i
: don't hate it (as i probably should) despite
: of all the problems that it may cause me.
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