Posted by Mairi on 7/2/2009, 10:13 am
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Google came up with this board, and I've been looking for a few weeks because of my own predicament. I'm a 19 year old female university student in the UK. My parents live in a small village about 150 miles away, so I only see them vacations now. They are very strict, religious, anti smoking, alcohol, gambling types. I started at university in October last year, and at that time I'd never even thought of trying a cigarette, and by this new year I still hadn't.
For reasons which will have to keep for another day, by Easter I'd become a regular smoker. I'd got a job for the vac. so I was only "at home" for 4 days, and decided to quit just before I went. It didn't work out, and I lapsed into smoking again as soon as I left my parents. I'm not a heavy smoker, about 10 per day, but 4 days without was hell.
I've got a temp. job again for a few weeks, but the plan is I go to stay with my parents again late August for six weeks until the start of next term. I just don't know what to do.
The options seem to be
1) Quit smoking. That will be a struggle, and I don't really want to. I enjoy smoking and am comfortable with myself as a smoker now.
2) Come out. A frightening prospect. All hell will break loose. They might disown me.
3) Smoke in the closet. That will be really difficult. To start with, sneaking out 7 or 8 times a day for an hour, and constantly brushing teeth and mouthwashing will be strange behaviour. And it's a tiny village, everyone knows everyone, so if I'm seen smoking, everyone will know, and there's only one little shop and the owner knows my parents well - so I'd have to take about 400 cigs with me, smuggle them in and hide them. This is probably the least practical option, but the others don't seem too good either.
Anyone there been through this and got any advice?
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