Posted by Mr X
on 7/9/2009, 5:05 pm, in reply to "I quit- I think"
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Wow. I have a similar relationship with smoking. I am not married but in a longish-term relationship with a very strong anti.
You can read my story if you like, simply called "my story with smoking".
Good luck quitting, but only do so if you are SURE you wan't to quit. I have "quit" already twice and it led me to the predicament I am in now.
But honesty is very important in a relationship. Would your wife go nuts if she found out you had the occasional cig?
Best regards...
--Previous Message--
: My wife and I are celebrating our 10th
: anniversary this year, and I've recently
: been thinking of many things I need to work
: on in our marriage. This inevitably led me
: to think, once again, about my on- and
: off-again closet smoking and the trust
: issues around it. I decided it's time to
: stop deceiving her about this, but I'm
: definitely not ready to tell her. I
: finished my pack earlier this week and
: decided I wasn't going to buy another one.
: I pledged to myself that I have to tell her
: if I smoke again, and I set a deadline that
: within a year, I still have to tell her even
: if I haven't lapsed. Much as I've enjoyed
: it, it's no use in keeping the charade
: going, and my marriage is certainly more
: important than the occasional pleasure of
: smoking.
:
:
:
: Strange as this may sound, I don't feel like
: I'm quitting, I'm just not smoking. I know
: this is foolish, but since I've only been a
: chipper (at most), and I've never had
: withdrawal when I've decided not to smoke,
: I've never really thought of myself as a
: smoker. Delusional, I know, and I think
: that's also made it easier to light up again
: at some point in the future, because I feel
: like I can stop easily. Even if I don't
: really hae cravings or withdrawal symptoms,
: somehow I manage to come back to it, though.
: This should be interesting!
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