Posted by Jeff H
on 7/23/2009, 10:50 am
63.117.247.110
Well, I have been smoking for many years, but only on occasion, and noone in my family knows I smoke. A couple friends at work found out by accident, but most of my close friends don't know. My family and close friends are very anti. Over the past month or so, I have become a daily smoker. Not sure how I feel about it, because of the health issues and all, but with job stress, breaking up with my girlfriend, etc. it is no longer a social or occasional habit.
Half of me wants to be able to smoke when I want without fear of someone close to me finding out, by just being open about it. The other half of me wants to stay in the closet, because I don't want to deal with all of the nagging, lectures, comments, etc. from my anti friends and family. And believe me, I know just by how they deal with declared smokers what it would be like, and because the care about me, they would be worse, because they would worry about my health, and constantly be on me to quit, which in honesty, would be just as much stress as continuing to hide it.
My question is this...What is the best way to "come out" as a smoker to family? Is it better to just be careless and let them find out based on smell, or "catching you" in the act, or to just tell them verbally first that you started smoking? I'm not sure the best way to go about it. I may stay in the closet a little longer due to the fact that I am not sure if I want to stay a daily smoker, or go back to occasional smoking. It is so hard for me to go without a cig on a daily basis now though. Yesterday afternoon I finnished a pack, and said that was "it" for a while for me on the smoking, but this morning, I needed one so bad I had to stop on the way to work for another pack, so it looks like I am addicted to the point where I can't cut back as easily as I used to be able to do.
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