Posted by friedatheant on 10/13/2009, 4:17 am, in reply to "Re: Tricky situation, how to escape?"
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You have a good grip on this whole set of issues surrounding closet smoking....quitting for health reasons....fighting the pleasure you've always gotten both with your own cigarette consumption and the joy of watching women enjoy theirs. These themes are all deeply ingrained in your persona, so changes will be a lot more than difficult. In fact, the changes you propose may not be even possible, or even advisable.
But I didn't want to waste your time evaluating those items, but suggest something a little more hopeful, and maybe even advantageous.
Are you at a point in your life when some other serious changes are being considered? Are you looking back over your life and feeling a need to change who you are?
Maybe your professional life? Marital status? Dissatisfaction with your earning power? Loss of physical capacities of all kinds?
So, what's my point?
I'm just asking you if this current round pondering your smoking-related issues is actually a form of your total self-examination of your own life?
Is the smoking concept really a manifestation of other more pressing issues? One that will challenge who you have been and what you really want to become?
Focusing on the smoking crises may be a disguise to protect you from having to consider some other more fundamental changes you'd like.
If so, go directly to the heart of that, and let the smoking paradigm sort itself out, afterwards.
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