Posted by myself on 10/31/2009, 5:42 pm
89.152.186.212
First let me just give you the links to my previous posts in the board so I can give you an update on my situation:
1) http://members2.boardhost.com/tdlane/msg/1242173329.html
2) http://members2.boardhost.com/tdlane/msg/1247364047.html
So, as I wrote before my daily ammount of cigarettes smoked has been incresing over the time and because of this fact more and more people know that I smoke.
I've started smoking in public when I go out at night with my friends and also every morning in my way to the train station. I don't care too much anymore about what people that I don't know think about it, which I previously did...
But the biggest problem has always been my parents. As I described in the last few months they started to notice that my room smelled a bit like smoke in the morning because of the last cigarette what I smoke in the window at night before going to bed.
Well as some of you told me in other posts my parents already knew that I was smoking, and I knew they did. Some of you told me that I had to tell them the truth but I never had the courage to do that. I have always said that if they brought the subject I would admit that I was smoking with no problems (because that way it's much easier then if you start the conversation by your own).
So, I think that these last times have been a "fight" between me and my parents. They were waiting for me to come up with the subject and I was waiting for them for the same.
Well, today I won. My parents probably understood that I would never tell them that I was smoking so they decided to ask me again about it. My mother started again with the smoky smell room strategy, but this time I didn't even let her finnish her question, I just said: "Yes, it's true, I smoke."
They didn't panic, just asked why didn't I tell them before and I said that I just didn't want to upset them with that stuff.
Then they just told me how their parents acted with them when they were young and how different it was by then, with almost no information about how unhealthy smoking is and shit like that.
They told me that it was going to be bad for my body and that I should stop while I'm not smoking heavily, but I never told them that I was going to stop.
My situation now is: I can smoke in public with no problems, half of my friends and my parents know that I smoke and the other half of friends and the rest of my family don't know that I smoke.
I still don't smoke in front of my parents although they know that I smoke.
So, what do you think that should be my next steps?
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