Posted by Will
on 6/14/2010, 6:20 pm, in reply to "Re: started last week at the age 32"
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Ann,
A couple of things I will mention, that all starts with a question... and you do not need to answer it publicly, as I will provide a number of different perspectives. The question...
How old is your daughter(remember, you do not need to answer it publicly)?
OK, you are 32. If you had your daughter at 18 or younger...then that would make her at least 14 years old. At that age, if she has not already been exposed to people smoking, she will be, at which case, the chances of her taking up the habit, at least short term, are 50/50 by my estimation.
Let's say you had her around 22, that would make her about 12. The impact of your smoking is probably minimal as she is at the threshold where she will be exposed to it anyway.
Let's say you had her around 28... this would make her about 6. She may not completely comprehend why you lit up, or have continued smoking, but you can keep it as an adult activity, and any immediate affect would be negligible. Although, down the road she may be more likely to take up smoking herself.
Let's say you just had her the past couple of years (which I find unlikely since she found them). If this is the case, then I would say that the chances are highest that she will eventually experiment with, and take up smoking for at least a spell on her own, and your smoking could contribute to this. After all, at this young of an age, in time, she may not remember a time when you did not smoke, and statistics say that children of smokers are more likely to become smokers themselves.
There are a few things to remember. Nothing is by the book and there are no certainties. You could be smoking like a chimney and she may never mess with tobacco. You could be a total non-smoker, and she may start earlier than ideal.
But, however things turn out, would her smoking be that bad of a thing (and I am not talking about her starting the habit tomorrow, but in her own time, down the road)? Maybe not the healthiest thing in the world, granted. But she could get into drugs, or alcohol way over her head, and it is times like that, that I would think that you would much rather it be cigarettes and just that.
Granted, I have no children at the moment, so I probably have very little room to talk, but that is my perspective on things. Hopefully I did not offend you or anyone else on this board.
--Previous Message--
:
: Thank you I told my daughter yesterday well
: she caught me she found my cigs in my car I
: forgot to hide them. So after I told her I
: lit one up its nice now not hiding it now. I
: just hope she doesn't try it now
: --Previous Message--
: Welcome! While I can't tell you how to
: advise
: your daughter in your situation, the best
: thing I CAN say is that you're not alone in
: starting smoking later in life. I would
: advise, however, that your "secret
: smoking spot" not be indoors. There's
: only so long that can be covered, especially
: in a carpeted space. Outdoors is great, and
: bathrooms are easier to clean to a point
: that the smell doesn't show.
:
: As for the daughter: age is going to be a
: huge factor in how you address the
: situation. If she's far underage, that
: probably means keeping it to yourself for a
: while. If she's older, you might choose to
: talk about it, but consider that if she's
: old enough to have friends that are smoking,
: she might try it herself.
:
: The difference in being anti-smoking for so
: long will make it very difficult for you to
: have that talk and justify it with
: negatives, since you probably haven't
: experienced any negative side effects
: yourself yet. Parents that are life-long
: smokers almost have that easier, since they
: can discuss the cravings, the coughing, the
: potential for health problems. It could be
: years before you experience anything like
: that, and if your daughter learns about your
: smoking, she's probably not going to
: understand that you tried it as a stress
: reliever, and since it worked, you've
: decided to continue.
:
: If there is a way to be honest and up-front
: about this with your daughter, I'm not sure
: what it is, especially if your goal is to
: prevent her trying it herself.
:
: --Previous Message--
: I started smoking last week over a stressful
: day. A coworker gave me one of her cigs a
: vs120 slim. I really injoyed it I even
: bought my own pack that night.
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