Re: Friend wants to smoke, what should I do?
Posted by SmokeyTheBear on 8/26/2011, 1:02 pm, in reply to "Re: Friend wants to smoke, what should I do?"
I, of course, know that not everybody coughs when they first inhale. I myself was one of those people who was able to inhale without coughing. And quite frankly, that has always bothered me somewhat. As for my friend, I know that he WILL cough because he always has. |
Funny that you mention using cocaine. I have to admit that I had my drug days. But the funny thing is that I was always MUCH less ashamed of taking drugs than smoking. Let's just say that I have told most people I know about the drugs. But smoking? Well, that's another story.
: Unless you are thinking about quitting,
: please take the opportunity and smoke with
: your friend as you normally do. Not everyone
: who inhales coughs, even on their first
: try--I didn't and I'm not the only one. I
: say "please" not because I have
: any ulterior motive, but because if you find
: it "really tempting" you owe it to
: yourself to finally let go of some of that
: tension/stress/desire and this is a good
: chance to open the valve and release some of
: the pressure.
: Putting too much effort into pretending to
: be a newbie is not a good idea though--if
: you relax even a little, pretending will
: quickly backfire and become a chore in and
: of itself. I smoke obviously, and am
: pro-smokers' rights, but I'd never try to
: start anyone or even encourage them to smoke
: more, as that's a decision that deserves to
: be made independently. But I feel for (often
: angry for) closeted smokers who'd like to
: crack the door and peek out once in a while.
: After all, it's only smoking a
: cigarette--you're not snorting cocaine,
: cheating on a spouse, or shoplifting. Lots
: and LOTS of adults smoke a cigarette once in
: a while, and whether staying closeted
: benefits you or not, or even if you like the
: feeling of sneaking around, feeling tense
: and guilty about it and/or sitting around
: focused on how you'd like to do something
: that is 100% legal and acceptable for an
: adult with freedom of will rather than on
: enjoying life and the company of your
: friend, is not only not fair to yourself,
: but is probably far more harmful in the long
: run than just smoking a cigarette and
: enjoying it now and again. And besides, what
: would your friend say if you accepted the
: offer and then appeared to take to
: it--"Man, I wanted you to smoke with
: me, but I didn't want you to really smoke
: or enjoy it"??
: --Previous Message--
: I have a friend who I have known for YEARS
: likes to smoke from time to time. Lots of
: times when he smokes, he tries to get me to
: smoke with him. But over the years, I have
: always been too embarrassed to do so. I've
: always told him that I just don't want to
: smoke. He asked me again today. And,
: although I have not smoked for about a week,
: it sounded REALLY tempting after my stint of
: increased smoking for the last month.
: But I have two problems. First and most
: obviously, there is the whole problem of
: smoking around a friend. But secondly, when
: he DOES smoke, he (1) tends not to inhale,
: and (2) goes into a coughing fit if he
: tries. So what's he going to think if I sit
: there and inhale like it's not a big deal?
: THAT'S something I hate to think about. So
: do you think I should just pass on this?
: Should I pretend to cough? Or should I just
: take the opportunity and smoke normally?