Posted by Slowhand on 6/6/2012, 6:20 am, in reply to "Don't give up"
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I'm closeted for life my son and my wife hate smoking and nobody I work with smokes so I'll never smoke in front of anyone I have a problem with anxiety I remember once 30 years ago trying to smoke in public I got so nervous I Put it out immediately lol
--Previous Message--
: First of all, I was re-reading a lot of posts
: yesterday, and I just want to say thank you
: to all of those that have been in the closet
: and yet still check in and post to help
: others. It wasn't that long ago that I
: stumbled onto this site. A time when I
: thought that I was surely the ONLY one who
: would have such a hang up about smoking in
: public. In front of people that I don't
: even know!! While I am not completely there
: yet, just describing it sounds absurd.
:
: Second, when I did a search for this message
: board this evening, I came upon a board for
: closet smokers that is geared towards ah ing
: them into quitting. Honestly, when you take
: yourself out of it and you hear people
: saying how their family and friends shame
: and judge them, it makes me wonder why
: anyone would want someone like that in their
: life at all. It gives me even more resolve
: to keep up my efforts to see myself as a
: smoker that I am and to embrace that as part
: of who I am.
:
: I am seeing a therapist to better understand
: why I had the hang up about it in the first
: place, so I understand Robbie's excitement
: as he explores this aspect of himself. I
: am far from the expert here (I take that
: back, I have been an expert at being a self
: depreciating smoker), but the recurring
: theme here seems to be one of acceptance. I
: know it sounds crazy to those that are
: really closeted (it did to me), but so many
: people said it and it's true. Nobody really
: cares enough to care if you smoke or not.
: Or really to give it a second thought. And
: if they do, as I mentioned above, do you
: really want them in your life?
:
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