Posted by Deforester on 11/2/2009, 7:19 pm, in reply to "Pretty gross...but need opinions.."
We don't diagnose, but it is acceptable to [politely] ask her what's going on there.
You can say, for example, "Oh wow, looks like you have some ....irritation, flakiness, etc., whatever..... here, what's up with that?" Then stop, make eye contact, and listen to what she says about it.
Create an opening for the communication to exist. What she says next should clue you in on how to proceed.
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